I'm in a relationship with the man that I love and he loves me and he has been separated from his wife for two years and hasn't gotten a divorce and he has three children with this women, they talk on the phone three or four times a day, and also he's very attached to the jewelry she's given to him in the past and he won't take it off what should I do? I’m feeling very insecure about this and should I be?
2006-11-29 01:41:00 · 13 answers · asked by Wendy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She also lives in another state, does that matter?
2006-11-29 01:52:06 · update #1
He is married!! hello????
He talks with her 3 or 4 times a day! hello?
He is very fond of his relationship momentos and gifts! Duh!
he is playing you big time. That's what you get by being involved with a married man. Get it to your head, he is never going to abandon his children and divorce his wife for you.
Shame on you homewrecker!
2006-11-29 01:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned with the fact that he is still married, not that he wears some stupid jewelry. Of course you're feeling insecure. There is nothing secure about your relationship. He has no commitment to you. He is married and has children with another woman. Get some back-bone and tell him you'll see him when the divorce is final. I'll bet the reason you haven't done that is you're afraid he won't choose you. You're probably right about that, but why would you want a guy who puts you so low on his list of priorities? Stop wasting your life. Find someone who is free to commit to you. Good luck.
2006-11-29 03:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could he talk on the phone 3 or 4 times a day? People that are in love sometimes don't talk on the phone that often.
What are they talking about?
Does he talk to you that often?
Why hasn't he gotton a divorce?
*** Why hasn't he taken off her jewelry? ***
Maybe...
He has not reached closure on his relationship with her.
He is not ready or willing to cut the cord on his marriage with 3 children.
He is afraid of losing his 3 children, or their respect, or their love.
Q: "What should I do?"
A1: "Guard your heart with all diligence."
A2: "Make alternate plans. Make contingency plans."
A3: "Don't give him access to your bank accounts."
Q: "I’m feeling very insecure about this and should I be?"
A: You bet! (Yes!)
2006-11-29 02:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Friend_88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I would dump this guy. Love or not. You have been with him long enough. If he really wants to make a new start. Get rid of the jewery.....get new stuff. Has he even filed for a divorce? If not, there is too much baggage with him to start a new relationship. Time to get rid of the excess luggage and move on. I know if you love him, it will be hard. He has the best of both worlds. You and the ex with the kids. I think he should stay in touch with his children but that should be it. BUT HE IS NOT GOING TO GIVE UP EITHER, YOU NEED TO MAKE A MOVE!!!
2006-11-29 01:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should have never become involved with a married man, infidelity on his part, and becoming the "other woman" on your part were conscious decisions on both of your parts.
You should have realized by now that he isn't going to break of his relationship with his wife and children. He is attached to the jewelry because of the emotional attachment to his wife.
2006-11-29 01:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the situation is bothering u that much, u should let him know..if he really cares about u he'll make sure not to do things that hurt you or bother u. and if u tell him and he still acts the same way, then that's a warning that tells u he is hanging on to his ex more than he's hangin on to you. Then, you should ask him to make a choice and decide which one of u (urself or the ex) is his priority, make him feel that ur ready to walk away and not desperate for second hand attention.
2006-11-29 01:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by GucciRush 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing with a married man in the first place?First you need a man that is single.a man that is married and won't get a divorce wants to stay married to that person or just playing YOU for a fool.he don't want a commitment from you.You need a new partner in your life.
2006-11-29 02:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not bothered to get a divorce in over 2 years it sounds like he has hopes of getting back together with her so I would leave and find someone who is truly available this man is not that . good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-29 02:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah defintely if he isn't wanting to go ahead with the divorce then he must still be in love with the wife... LEAVE HIM... You can do better than that..
2006-11-29 01:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by tabbetha h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 23:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋