He also loves me a lot...we live in a diferent country from his family's....now I am pregnant with my first child with him and he is happy about it....but im not too sure as im not even married to him and financialy there can be no problem but still...socially there will a lot....now i am on the verge of deciding not to have it...its my 18th week now so i need to hurry up in whatever i decide.....even i wish to have my kid but my parents will be lost forever as hey would never accept it...im feeling very helpless...as love is not everything which can make all things right....Im just 22 now he is 40...so i wish to settle with him now is the age to have my kid with him!!!!
Hope the question is clear to you all...hey dun write in nasty mode...jus try suggesting...
im very scared about the whole thing...
2006-11-29 01:15:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
but he is not exactly cheating...ok may be he is..but he is taking care of his other family very well...and he is present with his kids in all imp occationa and with me also he quite available....financially nobody is being comprimised....but yeah ill be raising the child in quite difficulty as for socially...
2006-11-29 01:25:30 · update #1
I cannot offer advice as to whether or not to keep your baby.
However, I strongly believe that you should leave this man. He is a two-timing cheater who has no regard for his wife and children, and is too cowardly to face up to his adultery. And he's taking advantage of a younger woman less experienced than himself, who also happens to be young enough to be his daughter.
All in all, he sounds like BAD NEWS. In addition, show respect for his wife and children and don't get yourself involved in this negative relationship.
Best of luck to you.
2006-11-29 01:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT? YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH A MARRIED MAN? Come on, snap out of it. It's fun now because the kids are with the wife while you two are playing. You are not in love, you are in lust and he too, with a wife and a lover on the side. Just wait until he divorces his wife and he gets the children on weekends, every other holiday and the constant bickering between the ex wife and husband. In the end the children will suffer all because the adults can't keep their pants zipped. The children need their parents more than you need an adulterous affair. So your contribution to the world is another broken home. Good job!
2016-05-23 01:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off abortion is NOT birth control. You really should of thought about that before you slept with a married man. How can you say he loves you a lot when he is still married? Obviously he doesnt love you that much, right? Your 22, he's 40...just sounds like a mid life phase to me...some old man wants to have a pretty young thing hanging on his arm. Sounds messed up but it happens more than you think. I feel sorry for you because you sound like you truly do love him but unfortuantly I think you got played and the one who will suffer the most is that unborn baby in your belly. That is an innocent life, that did not ask to be brought into such a horrible situation and it also seems like you will end your babies life because this man doesn't want to be with you...that's just wrong. Like I said before you knew what you were getting yourself into when you slept with a married man.....like they say..you made your bed, now sleep in it and if you have an abortion....you have chosen the easy way out and I hope, for your sake, that you can handle the guilt.
2006-11-29 01:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i were you i would have the child even though your not married its not the childs fault and money wise there is always child surport he prob won;t want to go to court but that does not mean that he woun't pay for the child and be there for the child
but i don;t believe its right to end a instent ones life when they had no part of what you did or he did, by the way he won'y leave his wife for you sorry to be blunt and all but there was a guy that i worked with and well he had a simlar situation only his girlfriend was not preg and he told me that he would never leave his wife and kids no matter what happened and well as far as i'm see that he will cheat on you iif he cheated on his wife this guy at work did and will countine too i know for a fact that guys like that are no good so keep the baby and leave the bastered
2006-11-29 01:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by niki812000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,I am so sorry you have fallen into the worst case senero you possibly could have with a man.This man was thinking with the wrong head ,I am sorry but but you will soon find this out.He knew better but thier sex drive is uncontrollabe at times.You need to get rid of this zero and find you a hero.He will never be ther for you ,how dare him cheat on his wife,the mother of his 2 children.If he found you while cheating ,hey He will cheat again,no mater what he tells you.Have the baby if you feel the need but you are tied to this jerk forever then.Believe me divorse with 2 children is not fun and it is hard to find a decent man to even look at you with children from another man.Pray about this pray that god will give you the strenght to tell him to go where the sun don't shine and start over.
2006-11-29 01:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by mcnatt c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to leave his wife and family for you. You need to decide if you're strong enough to raise your child, and live as the other woman in his life. It's a difficult choice, but one that you must make now, and be prepared to live with the consequences of your decision. Best of luck!
2006-11-29 01:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would Not care about what people think about the way the baby was conceived. Please think about that litlle life that you have been so Blessed with. Please do research on the abortion procedure. It is HORRIBLE. Please think of the BABY and not what your selfish parents or what other people will say or think. If you don't want the little precious life that is dwelling in your body then please find a family that would love to have your Baby.
It is not up to us to take a precious life.
As far as the man you are with.....If he is cheating on his wife with you, then he will cheat on you in time. Find someone who is single and more your age, There are Men out there that will love you and your Baby. Please make the right and Moral decision.
2006-11-29 02:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're pretty far along to consider abortion. I would suggest adoption. Or a good chat with your immediate family. You would be surprised with their reaction, I think. Your parents are the only people--ever--in your life that you have a god given right to be loved unconditionally. You need their support now before you do anything.
Goo dluck sweetie.
2006-11-29 01:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey, my sister has had a couple of abortions and they have messed her up for life. It haunts her. You will never forgive yourself for ending your child's life.
As a mother myself, I know that I didn't feel 'connected' to my first baby until after he was born. I suspect the same will happen with you. After my son was born and I could hold him and soothe his little tears and play with his little hands and feet, I was hooked. I would kill to protect my child, now.
Speaking as a woman I know that whatever happens with this guy you can get past. You cannot get past abortion.
Have your beautiful baby, no matter what.
Keeping you and your child in my prayers,
Sarah.
2006-11-29 01:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should have an abortion. You may think you parents won't except the baby but they will when I had my son my dad was not happy at all but when I brang him home my dad was very happy. So have the baby it might be good for you and things might just change..
2006-11-29 02:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋