So i had a huge fight with my bf and been sleeping on the sofa for the last 3 days and i am not talking to him. The fight was about him feeding a girl we both know in front of me.I was really upset that his being disrespectful and telling me he did nothing wrong and that i should not be mad. HOw dare he say that. Am i being wrong in this matter? Should i even ask this?I just think that something like that should be between us , i mean feeding one another is an intimate thing between 2 people, i will never do something like this.I even ask him would he like if some other guy feed me infront of him and he said NO so what am i suppose to think.
DO i have th righ to be mad? And do he have the right to tell me that i should not be mad? I am mad as hell and i am suppose to marry this guy.
Please give me some advise to handle this
THANK YOU
2006-11-29 01:08:58 · 20 answers · asked by bcb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he said he done nothing wrong and did not say he was sorry
he fed her with his hand underneath her month so that she is not messing on her clothes kinda way.
2006-11-29 01:25:32 · update #1
if u really love him then trust him
he may feeding her as a friend it doesnt mean all the time intimate lovers
just trust him and show him that u love him from ur full heart
then he will find u as a wonderful girl trust him
2006-11-29 01:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay...He's saying he wouldn't like it if you did that to him!! So how can he say he's not wrong? I would tell him he needs to stay away from this girl or the wedding is off. I probably wouldn't even consider marrying him if he thinks he did nothing wrong. He hurt you and he should be trying to make things right if he really loves you. But if he doesn't try to make things right with you, how are you going to feel after you are married? Get this straightened out before you walk down the isle or you might be setting yourself up for a life of misery!
2006-11-29 09:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel about it. He should respect your feelings. Personally, I would be mad as well. Especially to have the gall to do that infront of you. Does the girl like him? Do they flirt? Maybe its time to have a chat with your bf and if he cannot respect the way you feel then maybe it's best to find someone who will. Don't marry someone who doesn't respect you. You will only set yourself up for heartache. If you can work it out and he understands your feelings, that is great, but if not...find a man who wants to feed YOU. Not your friend. Good Luck Hun!
2006-11-29 09:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by pppersephone06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and formost he wouldn't have gotten that far if it had been me. We all react differently anyway. I would have yank the hell out of him and as for the chick she would have gotten a big chunk of me for disrespecting me in the first place. And last but not least he would have gotten the boot because he's probably playing you in the first place. He just showed you up front. I agree he is a jerk, cut him loose girl you deserve better. Show him that you don't need him and theat your better off without him you don't need that kind of crap in your life. You need to find someone who will love you for who you are and give you the respect that you deserve. Take care and whe you're ready to give him the boot tell him " I'm sorry it is your time to go because you are the weakest link!" lol. I would!
2006-11-29 09:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you are being to controlling...your telling him what he can and cant do ! it seems like it meant nothing to him which is why he said what he said about you being mad...which in return should tell you that he cares alot for you ! I agree with the person above we need more detail to help ...was their any staring in her eyes for the hole time or was it just a here try this type of action..the part that realy bugs me is when you say "how dare he say that" ...sounds like you dont let him speak his mind with out getting mad..another thing is NOBODY in a relationship should sleep on a couch in less
1) they are a guest
2) they are sick
3) they are to drunk to go to bed
just my opinion
try to talk to him and decide if the two of you are really in it for love and the long time commitment or just for the fact you want to have a spouse.
2006-11-29 09:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by old working man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What other things haven't you found out yet that maybe he thinks you shouldn't be mad at? This is completely wrong, this is 'flirting' with someone else. I wouldnt dare think of it if I was involved with someone else. If I seen someone I was dating do that, I would have ended the relationship very soon. We just don't see eye to eye on that. Good luck woman, hope you make the right decision.
2006-11-29 09:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by luvs6strings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeding romantically like you see in the movies and stuff?? That would be a little out there, especially to do it in front of you....How are the other areas of the relationship, is his being so obtuse deliberate? Yes you have the right to be mad, esp if he would get pissed if you did it. OK heres what I would do, get a guy to feed me in front of him, and kick his azz outta the bedroom, he should sleep on the couch. As long as you continue to act submissive, you will be treated as such....
2006-11-29 09:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by dramafreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all why in the hell are you sleeping on the couch? And personally I would have slapped the hell out that b i t c h who let him do it!!! Who is she to let another woman's husband feed her like she is his woman? Dump his a s s because if he will do it to your face there is no telling what he has done behind your back. Dump her as a friend and be careful who you let around your man.
PS
HELL YEAH YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE MAD!!!
2006-11-29 10:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Black Barbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man really needs his *** kicked by you. I would knock a guys teeth out if he tried to feed my woman in front of me, and I am pretty sure the claws would come out if I fed a woman in front of my girl. The guy should have been feeding you and making the girl envious of you for having such a cool guy, but clearly I think that he disrespected himself as well as you in front of this other girl. Sounds like your man likes getting the attention from other women as well as you. Be careful and good luck.
2006-11-29 09:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Rod G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have the right to be upset. You are not exagerating anything, you are right.
Maybe he didn't know that that was unappropiate and if he had any romantic intent with this lady, he wouldn't have done right in front of you.
I say, yuo have to talk about this without the drama, and set clear boundries. Tell him that his behavious was unnaprppriate and that it hurt your feelings, An apology is due to you.
Good luck
2006-11-29 09:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said NO that it wouldn't be ok for another male to feed you in his presence or out of his sight, then ask him why its ok for him to feed a woman in or out of your sight.
If he has no good explanation then get off his couch, out of his house and just say NO to marraige.
If however he is apologetic and liqour was involved, you might just want to cool the relationship off for a while until he can prove that he is commited to you and it was a one time mistake on his part.
2006-11-29 09:13:58 · answer #11 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋