My husband and I are expecting a baby. My obgyn is recommending that I abort my baby. He says that he feels that our baby will be "not normal" because my husband has only one leg and is missing a part of his eye. I really want to have this baby but the doctor is making it seem as if our baby will be less than a person just because of my husband's short comings. Help please!! Can I still have my baby?
2006-11-29 00:12:43 · 28 answers · asked by mamabag06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes you can and so what if your baby is born with one eye and one leg or even two heads! To many people have all their body parts and its time the world sees more of people without all their body parts! Great question! Keep them coming!
2006-11-29 00:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How did your husband lose his leg and eye? If that's a physical problem then nothing is wrong with your baby. If your Husband has a genetic deformation then there is still no major cause for concern. Your ObGyn can not force you to have an abortion, only you can make that decison.
If the child's life or your's is in danger, then there is reason perhaps, but I see no reason for you to lose your child. If the baby is perhaps deformed, they will still be a precious gift and you will be blessed.
Genetics, Drugs, and Health are the only things to be concerned about during pregnancy, not your Doctors. They should be helping you, not degrading your Husband or future family.
No one can legally force an abortion, you just need another ObGyn.
2006-11-29 08:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would go see someone else, Medical professionals sometimes let their personal opinions etc get in the way of things. I had a similar problem with a doctor who told me i was unable to look after a child and that i would be making the wrong decision by having mine, i was young at the time but not incapabale and i'm sad i was made to feel that way, I have regretted it all my life, she even had the cheek to say well it was your decision when i went back because i wasnt coping! I know the situation isnt exactly the same but the principal is they can offer their opinion because its their job but they do not call the shots ultimately this is your decision and i'm sure you are willing to take the conciquences so i think you shoud go for it what if you never get another chance. At the end of the day a baby only needs love and he or she could be perfect, dont let halfwits ruin your life.
Good luck and bless you x
2006-11-29 08:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get a second opinion, and ditch the OBGYN you have. It is your baby and your uterus, not the doctors, and this is a free country. Is your doctor prejudice against handicapped or "not normal" people, he should look in the mirror because he is not normal and has no right to make you feel like you are doing something wrong by bringing a wanted child into this world that you will love and raise, not the OBGYN. I am 10 weeks pregnant and could not imagine keeping a doctor if he suggested that based on what you have said. You do what your heart tells you, dont listen to that ***.
2006-11-29 08:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by ShellBell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say tell him to screw off. Just because your husband has a few short comings doesn't mean anything. I would find a new doctor. NOBODY can MAKE you have an abortion. If this is what you and your hubby want then go for it. And when your baby is born perfect take it to the doctor and say "see a$$hole. My baby is perfect. Glad I didn't listen to you!!!" There have been people that didn't have either leg or anything and had baby's that were perfectly normal. I say go for it. Enjoy your pregnancy and your family! Congrats and welcome to the mommy club!!
2006-11-29 08:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Doctor would say such a dumb thing if they truly did say that than you need to seek legal advice not yahoo a doctor can't force you to do anything as a matter of fact they can't do anything to your body without your signature.at least that is how it is in Canada. I hope you get a new doctor, the doctor should only tell you to have the baby removed if it is a risk to your health and even than they can't force you only advise you on what to do other than that you should do just fine and don't stress about it cause worrying could only make things worse for you,So you take care and good luck
2006-11-29 09:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what the situation is behind your husbands health issues. chances are your baby is fine .
ask for a second opinion and definatly change your doctor to a more considerate one. if all is well with your baby go ahead. i would make an official complaint. how far along are you? if its early there is now way to tell if your baby is 'ill'.
if your child does unfortunatly inherit your husbans problems would it be so bad. i guarentte you will love and support that child just as you do with your husband.
good luck i would stick by my child regardless of any illness and inform ur doc of inappropriate behaviour and definatly complain
2006-11-29 09:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly, If this doctor is making you feel as if you have no choice than he is wrong. You have the right to let this baby live. You have the right to not kill this innocent child. A doctor told my uncle and aunt the same thing and they decided to let their daughter live and today she is a healthy, beautiful, and very smart ten year old. You do not want to do any thing that you would later regret. Have your baby and be a wonderful mother. Praying that all goes well. God bless you and your baby.
2006-11-29 08:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by smile101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
change doctors. OF COURSE you can have the baby! genetic counseling would have been an option for you prior to conception.. and you can get 3-D ultrasounds that show physical deformation... it's YOUR child this decision is completely YOURS ALONE. your doctor needs to be told that a physical deformity does NOT limit a person's ability to be worth-while and an active part of society... your doctor's way of thinking is VERY old school. I'm just disappointed in the attitudes of this world sometimes.
CONGRATS on your child that will be loved whole-heartedly by two wonderful parents!
2006-11-29 08:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to not follow your doctors advice on anything esp. abortion start looking for a new obgyn who will respect your wish better
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-29 08:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋