he still says that he loved me. my spouse dont knw this that we used to talk, we never had any physical relationship but we were very close on phone and chatting. he says he cannt live without me. i dont know why but i think i dont trust him, as he was not reacted the ways i was expecting when i got married. but the solid reason to accept his behaviour cud be becos he is 8 yrs younger to me and not employed. where as i'm independent.
2006-11-28 23:37:45 · 16 answers · asked by achops7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so whats the question? stay away from this guy, you are married and love your husband right? He is your provider and mate. dont even communicate with this guy sounds like he is a loser.
2006-11-28 23:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has no job and you are independent? What is wrong with your brain?He could just be looking for a meal ticket as in he wants your money. Is that what you want to be the bank for an immature underachiever? wake up and smell the stupidity. Drop the looser honey before you wreck your marriage. This young guy has nothing to offer and he didn't marry you or care when you married some one else so why are you even talking to him still. Keep playing with fire and you are gonna get burned.
2006-11-28 23:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you are married then you shouldnt even still be talking to another guy that is telling you that he loves you and can not live without you. We as women are passionate and tend to fall for things like that. You don't want to get yourself into a mess you can't get out of. Id say cut him off and have no more contact with him. You need to be good to your husband it is not fair to him. If you love your husband than you would have no problem unless you want to be with this other guy?
2006-11-28 23:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kat A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you now because he can't have you. If you left your husband for him, he would probably get bored within a short time because there'd be no challenge. I had something similar happen - there was a man I liked and who liked me but he never took it any further. Now I'm with a man who really loves me, this other man seems put out, even though he couldn't be bothered to "catch me" for himself. He's known my partner for many years but is chilly with him when they meet. This man you used to have a pseudo relationship with is like this - he's piqued that someone else has got what he thinks he wants.
You are right not to trust him. Shut him out and concentrate on being happy with your husband.
2006-11-28 23:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helllloooooo.....you are married....what are you doing...what are you thinking????? Stay away from him or you will lose your husband for what a man 8 years younger that isn't employed...stop all contact immediately and if you are smart, you'll change your phone number or email so he can't find you....this is trouble in the making
2006-11-28 23:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married now. You made your choice and he has to respect that. It sounds like he needs a mother, not a girlfriend. When has it ever been your job to take care of him? Don't ruin your marriage over him. Ask him to please not contact you again. You have a new life without him. I'm sure you may feel flattered over his attention but it isn't worth losing your husband. If he still insists on trying to communicate with you, you should tell your husband and let him take care of it.
2006-11-29 00:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 12:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to this guy. It's not fair to you OR your husband. Your marriage should always be forefront in your life. You made the decision to marry your husband so concentrate on him instead of a guy from your past.
2006-11-28 23:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by tedbatman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off and focus on the relationship with your husband. This old friend whom is 8 years your junior, is exactly that; a junior. He is only thinking on the adult life in which he could have had, not nessacerily with you, but a woman of your caliber. If you spend too much thought on this friend, he weigh you down and it will strain your marriage. He's in love with being in love, not in love with you.
2006-11-28 23:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think all again. dear now you are married and the right way for you is to forget your past and live your happy married life. just come out ..... and move on .
stop your further contacts with him.
it is best choice you can do... be loyal toward your husband and forget him caz it is just an infactuation of him toward you caz as you already know he din't reacted when you got married
2006-11-28 23:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋