2006-11-28 23:11:00 · 26 answers · asked by guardianangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that both people need to give and compromise in a relationship but I'm the one doing all the giving and compromising!!
2006-11-29 00:30:54 · update #1
You pose two different questions. Whether or not a man can "make" you happy is a very different matter than whether you should be the one to do all of the compromsing and giving in a relationship. So here are two different answers.
1. No man can "make" you happy 100% of the time unless he was a clown and miniaturized himself so that he could ride on your shoulder all day. Being with someone should be a happy experience, but it doesn't "make" you happy. So you have to pick the person whose behavior, attitude, and whole package is most likely to be compatible with yours AND who cares about your happiness (which WILL include doing things you like or that are important to you. If your love interest will not do that, you won't be happy for very long not because of the things they won't do but because their disinterest in doing so is a sign that they are selfish and/or truly not capable of loving someone else).
2. No one should make all of the compromises in a relationship. That is a disaster in the making. The person being given in to will develop a power-hungry, obnoxious attitude and the person giving all the time will lose their self respect and dignity. I've seen people do this and at the end of it all, they realize they've given their precious life away to someone who disrespects them because they didn't have enough gumption to stand up for themselves. If that's the situation you are in, it won't get better. Get out now.
2006-11-29 00:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What dream land are you living in, My wife and I are very happily married. We show each other respect, we are each others best freind in a way I never thought possible. She is my queen, but I will tell you a secret. There is always a moment or two where we are not happy with each other, but the secret is, except it and get over it. We have a argument over something and the next day it is totally forgot about. Say your peice then get back to being the best of freinds. I know I don;t make her 100% happy all the time, but I know she feels that she has got a best freind 100% of the time.
.............................................................................
OK, I have just read your other questions, congrets on your new baby, kids are great.
I am a guy, so I see it from a guys world.
Have you only felt like this since your baby? What is really bothering you? What is he not doing?
You say you still love him, but there is something missing.
I am not say you are at fault, but if you only started feeling this way since the baby, have you been to the doctor about post partum depression.
I hope things work out for you, having a new baby in the house is one of the best feelings in the world (i have 4 kids), but it also a hard job for the stay at home perent too. So don't get your feelings missed up.
If he really is not helping you, it is time to snap him into gear. But if you are feeling depressed, see your doctor. You might not realize it, but it might help.
Best off luck and look after the little one.
2006-11-29 07:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody will make you happy 100% of the time. It's not gonna happen.You need to compromise in a relationship.
2006-11-29 07:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one else can ever be responsible for making you happy. You have to do that for yourself. As for 100% of the time, that's completely unrealistic and unreasonable. Life is a mixture of experiences, good and bad. How would we ever grow or develop any strength of character if we never encountered adversity?
You come together with a man to share your experiences and you have to take as much responsibility for him as he does for you.
2006-11-29 07:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make yourself happy by choosing the right man, it is not the responsibility of the man to make you happy. Do you think you could make any man happy 100% of the time? I really doubt it, no matter how wonderful you are.
2006-11-29 07:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I could make you 100% happy half the time.
2006-11-29 07:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its never possible to expect anybody to make you happy. People make the mistake of putting their happiness someone Else's responsibility. You are responsible for your happiness, no one else.
2006-11-29 07:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by ckgene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is a secret...
No man can make you happy.
You have to be happy with yourself first.
Never look to someone else for your happiness because you will be in for a terrible disappointment.
2006-11-29 07:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is happy all of the time. No relationship is good all of the time.
2006-11-29 09:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you happy. If you are looking for someone else to make you happy you will have a miserable life.
2006-11-29 07:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by lady01love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋