i have found out i am pregnant and i have split up with my boyfriend as he a violent person.
now he knows i am having twins and he wants me back he keeps texting me telling me how much he loves me but every time i go back to him he hits me or cheats on me.
he also takes drugs and dont want my children to grow up with this i dont know what to do any more can any one help me ? i do love him but dont want to risk my childrens lives !!
2006-11-28 23:09:58 · 7 answers · asked by Bipolar-Bird88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please, find a responsible, respectful adult that you trust and ask for their help in navigating this situation (priest, friend, family member, teacher). You have several things to handle now: first, getting adequate prenatal care and deciding on whether to keep the babies or let a loving family adopt them. Should you choose to raise the children, you must not let the father near them. Please see a lawyer to make sure the father will pay child support but he should not be allowed custody or visitation.
You are wonderful to feel so strongly about the safety of your children (before and after they are born.) Please know that you deserve to be safe and respected too. This man does not love or respect. His actions speak much louder than his words. You are not responsible for him in any way so please, concentrate on your own physical and emotional health, concentrate on preparing for the birth and lives of your children. Do not spend any more energy on this man, do not communicate with him, do not see him. You will find true love in so many other places in this world if you are open to it. Again, please do not go through this alone, reach out to someone you trust to help guide you safely and happily and with strength and respect. You can do it!
2006-11-29 02:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by blue goose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back to an abusive man for any reason. If you want to have the baby then make that choice knowing u will probably be raising the child mainly on your own. You need to let him know that u will not be going back to him and if he wants to see his child he has to get help for himself right away. You don't want to raise your child in an environment like that. He needs to get clean and get some counselling for his violence and then his child at least can be part of his life. Who knows in the future u may be part of his life too, but not how he is now. You may think u love him, but love yourself more and know u deserve better in life.
2006-11-29 01:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to a priest. Get your BF to take you to a church that you tell him is holding some article of clothing you left at a bus stop or some other location and was dropped off there for you to retrieve. When you finally get there, have him wait in the hallway while you brief the pastor of the church to your situation and get him to come out and usher you two in...once he's there, there is no escape and he'll have to listen or be left out for good. That's all...
2006-11-28 23:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go back that is what you will be doing ricking your children's lives and showing them that what he does is right and it isn't. If he loves you then he wouldn't hit you or cheat on you. Unless he gets help I would just stay away.
2006-11-29 00:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what u did what was good even doe u love him and everything but i think your children a more important then anything at the moment leave him dont go bak to him cos hez gng to the same thing over and over again im sure ur family gng to help u out and support you but he dosent sound like a good father at all so its best to leave him
2006-11-28 23:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by lena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello...how about your own life...who will raise those kids if he kills you....get a restraining order...stay as far away as possible...move if you have to....How many women and children need to die before you understand that an abusive man is a dangerous man....change your phone number and protect yourself and your children...don't become another front page tragedy...good luck
2006-11-28 23:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
googd girl, just be careful babe, Don't forget you have got penny's number and she can help you out, love ya baby girl. xxx
2006-11-28 23:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋