what to do when ur the only child, ur mother remarried and is now pregnant?

Answer 1

You can accept the situation and look forward to becoming a big brother/sister instead of being alone.

Answer 2

i don't understand the question... you WERE the only child and more than likely you are just having feelings of anxiety BECAUSE you USE to have your mother's 100% undevided attention and now you have to share her... not just with a new step-parent but NOW you are worried about her love for the newborn as well. DON'T WORRY the new child will NOT take over and replace your mother's love for you. mother's are very capable of loving LOTS of children...

if you are having a great deal of problems emotionally from your new situation it would be good to talk to mom NOW and let her put all of your fears to rest!

i have 4 children (3 boys, 1 girl) and i am remarried now and pregnant with child #5. will i love any of my older kids less? NO I WON'T. i am very aware that my 7 year old daughter (the youngest) is having some anxiety about losing her "spot" in the family. i have told her repeatedly that she will always be mommy's baby girl (we're having a boy)... but i can tell she's not convinced completely... this means that i am going to have to be SUPER MOM for a while. i'll have to spend even MORE time with my daughter after the birth of this child to PROVE that my love for her is no less.

talk to your mom. she NEEDS to know how you feel. CONGRATS on your very first sibling! let this be an exciting time for you.

Answer 3

I was the youngest of 3 children. I was 17 when my mom and step dad decided to have a child. It was miserable. My mom was 40 or 41, and they had been married for 10 years. She had a difficult pregnancy, and was on bed rest 7 months out of it. Life changed, rules changed, I was the live in babysitter, the things promised such as living at home with a steady job, would allow me to get an Associates Degree in College. They went out the window! My older two sisters left home at 16 when they graduated high school, and went to live with other family members and got married at 18. (There was a pattern in all of us 3 kids) They still get along with my family as far as I know; I however when I left home, have only been back once in 8 years. I don’t know how old you are, but if your mother and step dad are anything of a human being, they wont change anything, and yes it is going to be a difficult time for you. I am in counseling now; I would ask your parents to be able to see one. So you have an outsider’s opinion, things you can do, to help you through the changing times. Things will change, the way things are now, are gone. If you are religious, talk with your pastor, or youth pastor etc. for help and advice. Going from the only child in the house to having little or no attention will be rough on you. They might not do it on purpose, but everyone that comes over is going to be interested in the baby only, and your parent’s time will be consumed with the baby. I wish you luck, I had other situations that was involved in my exodus from the house, but still the half sister didn't help those situations any at all.

Answer 4

I think it's really normal to be a bit upset to find this out. She is having this new little one with the new husband and that may leave you feeling odd. I think you should tell her how you are feeling.
If you want to help out then you should when the baby is born. It is not, however, your job to help out. They are having the baby, not you. It is your job to be a sibling to the baby. It would be nice to help with things but if you feel like you really don't want to then don't. (This also depends on how old you are)
I don't think siblings should be expected to help with other siblings--they aren't their responibility. Parents shouldn't expect it--they are the ones who had the children.
A new baby will be lot to get used to expecially if you haven't had any siblings before. You have to get used to sharing your mom in a way you haven't before. (that can be hard at any age) The baby will need so much time and attentin that you may feel neglected but it shouldn't last. Prepare yourself and if you give yourself the chance you will [robably end up loving this baby too.
I disagree with those telling you not to be selfish, if you are young then you should be allowed to feel any way you wish. Your mom is the adult and she made a decision to have this new baby but you are her first child and she still has a commitment to you. You do not have to sacficice your own feeling so as not to upset you mom. She is an adult and she should know if you are feelig left out or worried theat you might be left out. She is still your mother and should be able to reassure you and make sure you are kept close to her.

Answer 5

Please try not to be selfish, your mom is happy and that should make you happy. She needs your support more than ever now, don't let her down. I'm gonna assume she's always been there for you or you wouldn't have wrote this, so maybe it's time you were there for her. I have a thirteen yr old daughter and now have a 3 and 18 month old. She gets very jealous and it's really hard on me.

Answer 6

I am not trying to sound mean but you will have to learn to not be self-centered. It will be a good dose of reality. You will need to understand that the world does not revolve around you and it never will. If I were you I would try to look at this as a lesson in greatness. There was never a great person who was not also self-sacrificing. Learn to serve.

Answer 7

Love your new brother or sister and try to bear in mind that however you feel about the situation, it's not their fault!

Try to talk to your mother about your feelings. I'm sure she would want to know that you are feeling anxious about the new arrival so that she can reassure you of your place in her heart.

Answer 8

Be nice & carrying to your mom this baby is also your half sibbling! You must have been a great kid if your mom wanted to go thru all this again. Good Luck

Answer 9

hey ...be happy ...my daughter was....and she was a fab help to me ...she was 7 at the time , now shes 21 .and she adores her little sis,who is now 13

Answer 10

what realy can u do ? you are still young baby ... so just go along and show her and ur new sib that u care