he always on the computer he is very distant wi me we used to be so close now its like he is totally changed
2006-11-28 22:54:38 · 25 answers · asked by heather w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey girl.. sorry to hear what you are going through, I've been there before....
http://www.kmint21.com/keylogger/
download that on the computer he uses and you will be able to see everything he's been writing ;-) good luck and I hope you will be alright if it turns out to be true xxxx
2006-11-29 02:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by me_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can we help?
Why don't you ask him straight out?
Why are you so distant these days?
What's going on?
Do you want to break up?
Ask him those 3 questions in one sentence.
And watch his reaction. He will feel guilty and trapped.
Don't give him a chance to slime his way out of it.
Insist for a straight answer.
Be the strong one and make it look like that if he is not happy with you... he can leave.
There is no point pretending that everything is fine when it is not. If it is broken, it cannot be fixed. People who try to fix things in a relationship are only delaying the inevitable to a further date.
Don't bother asking him if he is cheating on you... because he would not tell you anyway. And he will turn it on you by tell you that if you loved him, you would trust him. Which is bullock of course.
2006-11-28 23:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in this situation before and i definately say go with you gut instinct. It got to the point where i was checking on the pc his history to see what he had been upto i think its best to confront him now before all the trust is ruined. You are probably right but dont jump to assumptions just stay calm and collected coz flipping out over this aint gonna help. You need to ask him if something is wrong as he seems distant and go from there. I'm sorry this has happened to you its not easy to deal with i know.
2006-11-28 23:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by grizzlybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true, he could be visiting chat rooms and meeting people online. Not as good as a 'real' relationship in my opinion, but hey, whatever floats your sandles.
If you really think he may be up to no good, see if he turns web pages off when you walk in the room, or won't tell you his password to his pc.
Idea: Tell him you need to send an important E-mail from his computer (something to do with work/studies.) anyway, get online and check his 'History' folder to see what pages he's been on. (Chat rooms etc.) If you do this when he's had no time to delete his history, you should get a good idea what he's been up to. If his history file is empty, even though he has been on the computer for ages........i'd be suspicious.
Let me know what happens.
2006-11-28 23:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by ian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be so clingy! so what if hes always on the net. you do something else... like go out with your mates and have fun. at the end of the day, theres so much more to the world than the internet!
nothing lasts forever babe! and to be honest 5% of relationships lasts for more than 40years.
plus, a relationship is never balanced... one partner is always giving more... and one is not giving enough
i think you should back off, enjoy life, and you'l see the difference in him straight away... 100%
2006-11-28 23:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by geminially 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang on one sec hun, before you go accusing him, find out the facts first, he may be addicted to the PC and does not even notice you are there....if he's at home alot and using the PC then he's not cheating...stop worrying, tell him your feeling left out and to spend some time with you instead of burying his head in the computer...remove the fuse out of the plug and have him spend some time with you, but i think it's very unlikely that he's cheating, unless he has someone on line that he's pally with, talk to him and have him tell you what he's up to, if he is not giving you the answers you want then tell him your thinking about moving on....that should get his attention
2006-11-28 23:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like his interest is waining. He might not have someone else, but either way it does look like he is no longer committed to your relationship.
My attitude is, and I'm not saying it's right, if both people are not committed to saving a relationship, they should walk away from it.
You could fight to keep the relationship going, but all you might be doing is forcing the other person to carry on tolerating something they don't really want in their heart.
2006-11-28 23:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how long have u two been together? does he still hang out and talk with you? Does he give u any other reason why he could be cheating? he may need space. but i would talk to him about wanting to spend some time with him
2006-11-29 00:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by angel_not46777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online chatting doesnt constitute online cheating (try saying that drunk) maybe hes playing call of duty online, very addictive video games online. turn the computer off on him and talk a walk together.
2006-11-28 23:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow him, speak to some of his mates and see if they spotted anything in his behaviour, if you got the money set someone on tham to spy and find out where he goes and what he does.
If he IS cheating...dump him. You shouldnt have to put up with him making you feel bad.
2006-11-28 23:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋