I love my boyfriend. He is THE ONE. How do I hint that I want to get married, without shocking us both?

Question

we are together over a year. I love him with all my heart...I want to marry him simple as that. How do I hint this to him...what do I say that is genuine and won't put on the pressure...but just to let him know that I am interested in marriage and having kids?

Answer 1

First of all, love isn't the only reason to get married. Ask any of us who've been married for a long time. Love doesn't go away, but it does change...grow...become deeper. Now I have some questions...are you each other's best friend? Have you told him EVERYTHING there is to tell about yourself? Has he told you EVERYTHING too? Do you share EVERYTHING with each other? Do you have separate interests as well as shared interests? When you get married, who will have the checkbook? When will you want to have children? How many? What religion will they be raised & what church will you go to? Where will you live? How will you deal with in-laws? Is Mr. Wonderful a mama's boy and is he okay with that? At which relatives house will you have Thanksgiving dinner...Christmas dinner...birthday parties? Believe it or not, these are questions that often get overlooked while basking in love's light, but turn into real deal breakers for many couples. Talking things out now will show you what you have to look forward to, what you're willing to put up with, and what you don't want any part of. While being in love is a wonderful thing, picking up his socks from the floor day after day might set your teeth on edge. Or him wanting you to make snacks for all his buddies when he's hosting poker night at your house. While none of these might be worthy of keeping you two apart, talking about it now helps you see things a little more clearly. And, even the most thick-headed guy will get the hint that you're talking about things that only someone in a serious relationship talks about. All of this kind of talk might lead him to ask you why you're asking those questions. And you could tell him that you love him and want to know the deeper things that go beyond just a casual relationship. My hubby proposed to me in quite a cute way. We were sitting at a table, talking, and a little kid ran by. He reached out his arm, caught the little guy, and told me he wanted about a half dozen of these, then sent the little guy back to his mama. It took me until I was driving my way back home to realize that he had just proposed to me. I couldn't wait to get back home and write him a letter, telling him YES!! Of course, we didn't have a half dozen of kids, but it was a cute way for him to deal with asking me to marry him. I'm an old fashioned girl, so I still appreciate the fella asking the gal. It takes them longer to make up their minds, generally, than it does for us gals. So, give him time. In the meantime, just be yourself. Don't play the dating game, like so many of the gals (and guys) are doing. Allow him to see the real you, so that he knows what he's getting too. Encourage him to be open too. You're right to not be too pushy. Take your time and enjoy each other's company. Take the time to really get to know each other, as much as possible. While you'll never know everything about him, even after you're married, do what you can now. Love is a growing process that never stops, even well past your golden anniversary. Hope you both end up celebrating yours. <*)))><

Answer 2

Honey, if you are a mature adult and old enough for marriage, I would simply ask him over dinner..."So how do u feel about me?" And hear is answer. You can also say, "where do u see this going if anywhere?" You can get a hint as to his future goals this way. In general you should be asking questions like...where do u see yourself in 5 yrs? He must have some idea or he is not really worth it. Good luck.

Answer 3

you need to get away from the idea that you should give a hint to your feelings --- you come out and talk about it straight up --- if you feel it is to "shocking " then you are not getting off to a good start for any honest , committed life together .
begin with an engagement , which you both can agree on for your preparation to marriage and the future together . good luck .

Answer 4

U should know how HE feels about u before making plans, if he loves u as much as u love him, u'd know it and u wouldn't have been hesitating on how to "hint" this..I sense that ur more into him that he's into u..anyways, if I got the wrong impression and he actually does feel the same about u, then bring the subject up casually...like ask him wer he thinks a perfect honeymoon would be, or ...u know sthg general...if u feel that he got confused and wasn't ready to talk about that...then "he's not that into u"... besides start worrying a bit less about not putting HIM under pressuire, and a bit more about YOU relaxing

Answer 5

To tell you the truth, I would not say anything. If he is ready and wants to marry you (at least now) he would come to you. Do not make a move that could send your relationship the wrong way if you cherish it. Do not push the relationship to a level he might not be ready for, cause it could drive him away. If you two love each other, be happy with that, and when the time is right, he will come to you.

Answer 6

I just up and to my lover "we should get married" He said, "okay" and then we talked about it some. Nothing romantic or anything. We live together and personally, I think weddings are stupid, but we're doing it for our families sake. Mind you, we don't want children! If he wanted kids, our relationship would be over. Yuck.

Answer 7

that's a tough one. it kind of depends on how he see's marriage first. does he believe in marriage? are his parents still married? did he have bad/good past relationships? these things will let you know indirectly how he'll take it. if all is good then just straight up ask him but if there's some past hurt then you might scare him. i hope all's well. good luck

Answer 8

Just be open and honest....ask him what his feelings are about marriage...a general question...ask him if he wants kids someday...his answer to those general questions will give you a better idea if he really is the one...good luck

Answer 9

if ur boyfriend loves u truely and wants to send the rest of his life with u ... he will be wanting to hear a simply word from ur mouth ...
So why waste time... just start of by ur normal talks and ask him " few years from now, wher do u think we will be and wat our stand will be , whether we will together "" and so on... and slowly if he is responding to ur question.. then he is intterested to knw get married to u ... okie
And let see further from there.... And let me knw .. watis going to happen...GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

Leave your Bride Magazines laying around!