Why does my husband hurt my feelings?

Question

My husband says he does not feel comfortable with one of our freind's wife. He says he cannot look at her and talk. That was last year. Last May he did not want to leave her at her house when her husband was not there. She was wearing a mini short and I could not belive why he seems well comfortable with it. Last week she started singing a love song while he is playing the guitar and he could not stop joining in. He never even look once at me but was happy singing with her. Ok I am a bad singer. But later on he kept on talking about her singing talent. I feel that he really likes her and may be love her. But why does he lie about it? I have told him before as well that the way she acts with him and vice versa makes my feelings hurt. Sometimes they keep on talking as I do not exist. So, this time I am not going to forgive him. I am sure he knows I am hurt, and he did it may be deliberately. Please let me know what to do as I feel that I cannot trust him.

Answer 1

so what are u intend to do? Leave or stay? If you had make up your mind not to forgive him, why hesitate and not leave at once?

Since he knew you are hurt, did he ever convince and ask for your forgiveness? "NO"? so what does it means? He felt he did nothing wrong and thought you are petty type. Let him do whatever he likes and if he does, YOU can do the same exactly like him. Next gathering, bring one of your close male friend and act intimacy, do exactly what he did to you. This way, your husband will truly learn his lesson and if he is still cares for you, he will definately ask your explanation on why you did this to him.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You do have a problem there sweetheart, I would go to her and tell her that you no longer want to have nothing to do with you and you husband, call off the relationship with her at once, when it comes to your marriage you have to secure it with your life, at least you would know you tried your very best to keep it together if it does not work out, at anytime you should feel insecure and you know why deal with it right away, you see a problem with your friend who now seems to be your husband friend who is wearing sexy clothes, I think you need to eliminate that problem right away so just tell her goodbye and don't bother calling you or contacting your husband again she is disrespecting your marriage, as for your husband he quickly started feeling comfortable around her especially when he wasn't in the first place, last year this year does not make a difference, just tell him how you feel in a letter and write down exactly what you want from him and want him to hear, that way he would know how you feel in detail.
Good Luck!!

Answer 4

He may be telling you that he's not comfortable with her because there may be mutual sparks flying there that he's trying to ignore...If hes starting to compliment her after being that way last year, he might be feeling his way to see how much of a reaction you're going to give, or to judge if his crush has been noted. By him bringing her up and you responding in kind gives him the chance to talk and gush legitimately about her. He may be denying it for a range of reasons. His life with you might be too comfortable and he's smart enough to not jeopardise it, then again it might not even be intentional on his part. They are both extremely rude to talk as though you aren't there. I was always told to trust my gut instincts, they're never far wrong....

Answer 5

anyone who has feelings for someone other than their partner and looking flirting etc. is not to be trusted. it does sound like he fancies her i would not say love, as he hasnot had a relationshp with her like yourself. he may well still love you and fancy you, butsometimes if they are looking something i missing from their lives,. look but cant touch, as long as he does not get involved your marriage/ relationship could be worth saving. yes you are right not to trust him, and your right to be hurt your right to not forgive him. but she is just as bad if not worst what is she doing flirting with someones husband??.. so you have a few options. when she is round do not show jelously(its ugly, and will give her more ammunition) you sit on his lap singing with him ( even if your crap!) show her you and your husband are totally i love and non destructable, give your husband a reason to want to chat to YOU prior to all this, have a heart to heart tell him you want a serious talk about saving your relationship. try your best though not to be in contact with the woman your husband also, and give him an ultimatum, he gives up the silly behaviour or he looses you simple as that. bet he does choose you, and if he doesnt he does not love you enough and you can be happy wthout him. spice your relationship etc, look good go out together alone etc....

Answer 6

What you've wrote is about as much drama as "DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES"......your dear hubby is attracted to this other female and if you don't nip / tuck it in the cahonies now---you'll husband will be wanting to borrow sugar from the neighbor to bake cookies!

Answer 7

This is sad. You're right... he does like her. I don't know if he loves her... but he definitely likes her. He is your husband, and you have to tell him that what he is doing is UNACCEPTABLE. Tell him that you will not tolerate it. His friendship with this woman will have to end... whether he likes it or not. Be strong & stand your ground.

Answer 8

I think it's best answered by your husband. Ask him why.

Answer 9

Looks like you relationship is declining...sorry to break it to you but its time you consider your marital status....

Answer 10

Tell him that you don't like it and neither will his friend.

Ask him how he would feel if you spoke like that to another woman.

Good luck