Have you ever been together with someone that you thought could be the one for you? But even though they were great and they made you happy, and they may have even understood you more than anyone else had in your entire life and you SHOULD be falling in love with them...but still something didnt fit? Is that just fear of a bigger commitment? Do you think thoughts like that are just caused by a self-destructive nature (i.e. sabotaging your own happiness)?
2006-11-28 21:39:31 · 10 answers · asked by Jaded 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
And okay this is a really silly question.. i know but...have you ever thought that the person you are with is just too perfect ...not in the sense of a robot, not a perfectionist...but actually too perfect for you? I know i sounds crazy, cuz why even question something like that when you´ve found the perfect person for you, right?...but im just wondering...there must be a reason for a person to react this way...is it just your defense-mechanism for making sure you dont get hurt later on, if things dont work out?..or is the answer much more simple...or even a little more complex than that?
2006-11-28 21:39:53 · update #1
i want to answer one side of your Q,which is when we feel that somebody is too perfect or US,most probably the reason would be that we think less of ourselves,..ike we don't deserve such a nice,kind understanding person,
in order to solve that we need to know how we see our self-image first.do we have a personal problem that doesn't allow us to enjoy the company of some people"who are great"!
your Q makes sense,i think of these things sometimes,you aren't the only one :)
2006-11-29 00:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Legend85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am in that kind of realm now, in sort of speak. I found someone that seem to be completely perfect for me.... that understands me more than anyone else could, makes me happy in so many ways etc etc. But yes I still something didn't fit in. And I fear of bigger commitment. But as time is running and as I grow up everyday and change everyday (hopefully).... I realize that nothing is perfect on this planet.
I realize that, that person for me is not perfect even B is always strives to be the perfect one for me in every way, shape and form.... but still B possesses lots of flaws and shortcomings.
In the beginning yes, I was that kind of person that want everything from B to be completely perfect and flawless. I used to refuse and rebuff things from B that could be considered as imperfect. B has always to be my angel, in sort of speak. When B didn't show perfectness to me I get so nervous, impatient, judgemental and wreck.
I think if we can pass our hang ups and lower our rates of perfections, things would be lighter and easier for us. We become much happier to view life and others rather than wasting our precious time in a gloomy dark mood, wondering why people are like this or that.
2006-11-29 06:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The same thing I felt to one guy, I also thought that he is so perfect that I don't deserve him. As I thought in this way, I tried to forget him, because I knew he loved another person, and that he is happy with her.
After I forgot him, I understood that he was very far from being perfect...
2006-11-29 06:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ziyoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could feel the other person is superior, but obviously they think you are great or they wouldn't be there. I don't believe all people are really equal, other people are smarter, or more polite, or more outgoing. But if you can see it as balancing each others personalitys and accept differences it will work. You really haven't got much control over who does it for you and who just doesn't.
2006-11-29 05:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of the above,,,
its hard to define what perfection is,
and even if someone were perfect u stil hav the
problem of conflictin egos
,,,,,most ppl in this culture hav huge egos, as soon as
u sleep w them they feel they own u
and wil get out the leash
2006-11-29 06:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by enigma q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are jealous of them in any way, a mere human can be a God or Satan in your eyes. They could be too perfect in your perceptions but in reality they too have failures.
2006-11-29 05:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by sicilianchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a few weeks/months/years & you'll soon see they are not perfect. If you love them for their imperfections & wouldn't change them, then yes you have found the right person for you.
2006-11-29 05:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about being perfect, it's a good match.
Treasure it and enjoy. Go!
2006-11-29 05:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by plie3824 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one in this earth is perfect...if someone is really perfect then he or she knows everything...professional at it...so it's impossible for people to be perfect...
2006-11-29 05:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Es Ooi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question.
Myself personally - NO
2006-11-29 05:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋