2006-11-28 21:28:08 · 18 answers · asked by jake m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Get a new, more reasonable girlfriend. If she really wants to have a baby, she'll lie to you about taking the pill, sabotage your condoms, etc.
If she wants to drop out of school and be a welfare queen, whatever - but don't let her drag you down with her.
Never explore that hole again, my friend.
2006-11-28 21:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You are right you are NOT ready. Can you imagine when you are 30 you will have a 15 year old. Some people don't have kids until they are over 30. And if that 15 yr old has a baby at 15 then you will be a greatgrandpa at the age of 45. Meanwhile some 45 year olds will be having their first kid. Get the picture????????
You have NO idea how hard it is to be a parent. Your gf will miss out on all the fun times in high school. and she will take it out on you.
The two of you should look in the newspaper to see what the price of apartments are locally, Then figure utrilities, cable bill,
car payments, insurance on the car. Health insurance. Food, clothing, formula and diapers for a child. Sit down and see if you can afford to be a parent now.
Watch out that she doesn't trick you in to this. You guys are way to young to even be having sex already. GEesh....your life has barely begon.
2006-11-29 05:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In looking at some of the other answers posted here, most everyone is right... You need to be REALLY careful. I got pregnant ON birth control, and I never missed a pill. If she starts deliberately missing pills, or poking holes through condoms, you're going to get her pregnant, no doubt.
I'm glad that you recognize the fact that you're not old enough to be a daddy. You've got that part right. Can you imagine having a baby at sixteen? You won't be done with high school, won't get to go to college for a long time, and will miss out on all of the fun and parties that are part of being in high school. I think that you know this, though. Does she?
Not to psychoanalyze her, or anything, but does she feel like "no one likes her", and that her parents suck? Although those feelings are normal in adolescence, wanting to have a baby and ACTIVELY TRYING is NOT. It sounds like she may have some deep-rooted emotional issue that needs to be dealt with. I doubt that you're going out with a stupid girl, but you ARE seeing someone who's, at present, very confused about where she wants to go in life.
... So, this is what you do. You sit her down, and you tell her what she's going to miss if she becomes a mother at her age, and explain to her that you're not going to be the other half of a baby right now, if she gets pregnant. Stop sleeping with her. If you sleep with her, depending on how intent she is on getting pregnant, you're taking a risk of getting suckered into fatherhood in high school. Break it off with her, even if it is only temporary, so that she knows where you stand on this issue. I would break up with her until I was done with high school, personally.
There are a lot of stable girls out there, who are more satisfied with being 15 years old than trying to fill the shoes of an adult when they're not even old enough to work in a grocery store.
You've got a good head on your shoulders. I hope that you make the very best decision.
2006-11-29 06:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it's good that one of you has their head screwed on properly!
If I was you I'd dump this girl, she needs to do some serious growing up.
And even though you sound a very sensible lad, you too have got lots of things in your life to come, i.e. School, College, University, going on 18-30 holidays with your mates, going to Ibiza with your mates, travelling the world a bit, go out clubbing & pulling beautiful ladies... you know everything you can't do if your on benefits in a council flat with a few kids in tow, wondering how your gonna afford the next lot of nappys. ...Maybe thats how she wants to live her life but your different, you have many things to experience and accompish before you settle down and have kids.
It dosn't sound like she wants kids with you but she just wants a kid. ..that girl will be on antidepressents by the time she's 17.
Dump her and then tell your mum why, she will be so proud that she has brought up a child with brains.
x
2006-11-29 05:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is just my opinion, but I really don't think that you two should be THAT involved. I think you need to hold off on having sex with her or doing anything sexual. Babies come from sex, you know that much and seeing as how you two are still very young and under age, it will be very hard to deal with if she were to get pregnant and it be your baby.
You need to stop and think about your situation right now before you two get together next. Having sex, leads to pregnancy, STD's and both of those are for LIFE!!
All of those things change lives forever, and you have you whole life ahead of you, so all I ask is that you PLEASE read this and make the right decision!!
2006-11-29 05:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by phat_e05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get far far away from her, cause she might trick you into having one.. She could either act like shes on birth control or get a needle and poke holes in the condoms.. You are WAY to young for that kind of responsibility and so is she.. Either get away or NEVER have sex with her again until your ready for a kid..
2006-11-29 05:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by BrideofTyr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.. your too young.. and if she's the same age she will ruin her life... im nearly 17 and my boyfriends 19 i just found out im pregnant.. i don't believe in abortions and ive got the support i need to have a child and support it.. i may be young but i know what im doing.. she has to think bout what would happen if she did get pregnant... maybe tell her that if she really wants one you can talk bout having one when your a bit older and have the money and your own place.. so you can give the baby everything that it needs.
2006-11-29 05:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her no and quit having sex. The rough part about being male is that you have no choice once she gets pregnant. Not only that, but she could try and trick you into having a baby by poking holes in the condom or skip her birth control. Please PLEASE stop having sex with her. Anytime you have sex you are taking a big risk that she'll get pregnant. I think its great that you recognize you aren't ready. So please just stop the sex. I got preggy my first time. I have friends that got pregnant on birth control and one that had a kid even though they used condoms. It can happen. Accidental pregnancies happen alot.
2006-11-29 05:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by Velken 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!! Dude at least your head is screwed on your only 15. Tell her no. you may fight but if you really love each other you'll pull through mate. but jsut watch that she doesnt go do anything stupid i have had friends that have gone and falling pregnant form another an dsaid ti was theirs. not to scare you but yeah just be careful.
2006-11-29 05:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Little Mis Noddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Absolutely not, you both are far too young.
2) Get a girlfriend who isn't crazy.
3) Stop having sex -- period. 15 is too young.
4) Get some help from people in real life, they know your situation much better than we do.
2006-11-29 05:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Laughing 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋