My wife won't pay attention to me like she use to.When I try to spend time alone with her she always has an excuse why she can't. I try to talk to her and she won't open up, with me working so much I had more money to spend on her & kids. I gave her the world new clothes, new cars anything she wanted, but she still paid no attention to me. Later on I made the biggest mistake of my life, I cheated She went through the roof as she should. so I've been kissing *** for about a year now, and she's only treated me worse. After I seen her phone bill and found out she had a friend she would be texting at midnight, 1am, 2:30am etc and when i tried to talk to him to see what's up' she stood infront of him and protected him against me. she even went to the police on his behalf. After all that she can look me in the eyes and say she loves me with all her heart. the honeymoon lasts about a week then she's back stepping on me. Why does she do this to me? Payback? using me for money? or what else?
2006-11-28 21:17:53 · 8 answers · asked by sneaky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From your other questions I think this relationship may be over and she does not want to give up walking all over you because you tolerate it. Stop tolerating her treating you like this. If she truly wants a marriage then tell her that you both need to work on it. Otherwise you need to get out and start living your life. I think counseling would be a good choice for both of you. Good luck
2006-11-29 22:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I understand where you're coming from. But put yourself in your wife's shoes. After the affair did you really truly make her understand how sorry you were. Did you really make her understand that you knew how this ripped her world apart? Because you kissing *** and buying her stuff just ain't good enough. Especially buying her stuff. To her that's gonna come across as you trying to buy her love. Like if you're just nice enough to her she should forgive you. In stead she can end up loosing respect for you as a man. Like other people have said in here go see a professional. As for that man.....if he's just a friend you might just have shown her that you're trying to take everything good away from her. BUT.....friend or not.....she's gonna cheat on you with him sooner or later. It's time for you to sit down with her and make her work for this too. Don't be afraid to stand up to her. She's not gonna love you more just for avoid confrontations.
2006-11-28 23:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by denmark_4_life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is rough situation...I can relate,being married for so long myself..The cheating part will be hard to get past,you should find a good marriage counselor,try to get the lines open,before you lose her .
P.S You can't buy love,you need to change your thinking,us guys have that problem but women are deeper then that.
Good Luck
2006-11-28 21:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the signs are all there!! She is having an affair and she shows all the signs of guilt!! at the same time she has you for security.
Its a really hard decision to break a family up, so sometimes
women lead a double life. You need to find out where you stand!
2006-11-28 22:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by timmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have a tuf situation. I think it would prolly be best for you to stay in this marriage, for now, as you would lose a lot, your house, your assets, and pay child support. You felt a need, or you wouldn't have cheated, I don't condemn you for this, but she did the same thing, she should have defended YOU, not him. I see this as a sign that she doesn't care that much for you, but likes the money
2006-11-28 22:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is getting revenge on you not only that she has it made with you she still has you your money and another guy what more can she ask for instead of her cheating she should be a woman and tell you i wouldn't put up with her she is only using you and thes messed up get ride of her and find someone new she is protecting another guy from you if that ain't suspicious enough good luck
2006-11-28 21:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her and would like to fight for the marriage, then go and see a counselor. maybe he can help figure out the root of the problem.
maybe it was her way of getting back at you. but if she continues doing it, then it's a different story.
there are a lot of girls out there, smarter and more loving..start searching now.
God bless.
2006-11-28 21:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she loves you... but after finding out that you cheated on her... that's the worst thing that could ever happen to a woman... it'll never be the same again... ever.
2006-11-28 21:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋