i just found out that the girl im getting married to in 2 weeks time is a porn actress. She lied to me that her rich dad gives her money for living, after 6 months of relationship, when we just about to getting married she telling me that she is bound in a 6 month contract with this web based porn-site where she has to make one 30min video every 2 weeks. I am so lost i dnt knw what to do.
2006-11-28 20:46:24 · 31 answers · asked by billy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its been two days in a shock, and more i talk to her more i get to hear horrible, heartbreaking truth from her.... im sick of askin so many questions and then bear the answers...she tellin me that its her 3rd contract wid them...which means b4 we started she was workin for them, and since we ve been 2gether she has reniewed it twice....the idea of gettin married was herz too....she says she luvz me...but wot sort of luv is dat???
2006-11-29 00:33:42 · update #1
a relationship based on the smallest of lies doesnt hold much. theres no two ways about this, porn? you seem to not favor it esp by someone you are getting married too. and a contract is binding. you need to think of the fact that so many will buy the video and watch it. ask yourself how you feel about it. If you get negatives please dont think twice, end the relationship, rather regret now than later when you cant undo things.
If i were in your place I would be furious with her and would end it for the sake of keeping sane. We all have certain values in life, honor them and life will surely get better. If she valued yoru relationship much more than what she did then she wouldnt have lied in the first place,. Remember any relationship needs love, trust, communication.
2006-11-28 23:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by care alot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She Might Be A Porn Star .. But She Ain't A Complete Liar.. It's A Good Thing She Told You This Before You Planning to Marry Her .. I Would Suggest If You Still Love Her.. Go Ahead with the marriage, its only a matter of 6 months, 12 Video Shoots and then she might give up all this...
Besides If She's A Porn Star.. She Might Be Really Good Looking.. So Enjoy Mate...
2006-11-28 21:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, there are two issues here - the lying and the career. She obviously realised you weren't going to like it, so she hid her job from you - she must have really wanted to be with you. But can you live with the fact that she's in porn, even if she gives it up? And she CAN give it up - contract or not. There may be financial penalties, but I doubt they would be very much. You need to consider if you can live with the implications of this - what if someone you know saw her? Hopefully she's been practicing safe sex, but she's been unfaithful to you, and more than likely with several partners. Would you be secure enough not to to question her about their prowess? It seems to me the only way you could salvage this relationship is for her to leave the industry, and for you to let it go and put it behind you, IF you can. Good luck x
2006-11-28 20:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If this story is true then it is not about porn particularly it is about HONESTY. How can you lie about something so fundamental as to how you get your money? I would not recommend you marry her. I strongly suggest you postpone the wedding. Let her tell the friends and rellies why!
2006-11-29 01:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG... i bet you were thinking WTF when she told you that... look at least she told you!!! she could have kept up the rich father thing!!!
Look most men and women nowerdays watch some kind of porn so its not as if people are going to judge you both too much... i sugest that between the both of you, you set up some ground rules like what kind of porn you both feel comfortable with her doing... ie... girl girl... group girl... girl/toys... girl/girl sub/dom.. if you open and honest with each other this should not affect your relationship... many porn partners actually come on set with them to make sure that nothing goes too far or for the sheer fact that there partners are safe....
I say go along sit back relax and get off on your woman.. then take her home and make love to her...
2006-11-28 21:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well this is question only you can answer. but your fiancee lieing about something so importent is a serous thing. if shes on a six month contract she prob didn't think about you when she signed it. it was something she wanted to do. i believe that in a relationship you have to tell each other every thing no lies. you cant have a relationship without trust. and a relationship with some1 sleeping with other people on cam or off cam is NOT A GOOD RELATIONSHIP .it's one i wouldn't have. good luck.
2006-11-28 21:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by dragontears 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
IF you find her job repulsive and it seriously has turned your life upside down proceed with caution,somethings can harbor for the rest of your life.If you think you can get past this and she promises to keep the lines open and honest ,do what your heart tells you.
2006-11-28 21:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Run like hell. What if you have children together, and your son is in high school and all the guys have seen his mom getting some backdoor action? Respect yourself, respect your future children, and find a woman who isn't selling what rightfully belongs to you.
2006-11-28 20:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The same way most other women avoid getting pregnant.
2016-03-29 15:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMFAO!! good luck with the aids, my lil friend!!
remember!! all what matters is LOVE! lmfao!!
i think you should get aids from her , then die together just like romeo and juliet and i will make sure they change it to
ROMEO & PORN STAR!!!
2006-11-28 20:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋