If you want to be free from them whats your options? what do you do?
2006-11-28 20:38:03 · 25 answers · asked by simplyCj 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I cannot be totally free of them I feel like we are forever tied whether I want to be or not because we have a child together.
2006-11-28 21:44:19 · update #1
Start putting them out of your mind. Focus your thoughts elsewhere.
2006-11-28 20:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by hallowlulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the least you think about it the better-occupy your mind,have conversations try not to stay indoors, small spaces just cause more frustration and try not to dwell on it go to a group of some sort not so much a help group but an adult learning class or take on a task you think you cant fulfill. I know easier said than done. Time is the best healer you think its gonna get worse and worse but as time goes on scars like that heal-its true. If not try co-counselling or something.
2006-11-28 23:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things once lodged into the mind can never be completely erased. They can only changed or replaced instead by better thing. The harder you try to erase them the firmer and stranger they get in the mind, and mind remembers well everything that is stronger, stranger and therefore significant than all the rest. The solution therefore is not in you trying so hard to get rid of something in your mind, or I would say on you mind, the solution is in metamorphosing the related contents in the mind - since you are in philosophy section therefore a big word, but the actual meanings are simple. In simple terms, you need to know more about the things bothering you independently of that thing so that you are able to perceive something differently, completely differently. Travel into your mind into that person and then change it. You should see all things the way you choose to see not the way they automatically appear to you, or they project themselves into you mind for that would be a subjective state of mind, subjected to idle perception of reality. You need to be objective, and see your reality the way you consider is appropriate.
2006-11-28 23:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shahid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change what you can't accept and accept what you can't change.
If you really want to be free from them then I suspect you already know what you have do (leave). Trouble is it takes all the guts and loads more besides to do it. If you are anything like me, in reality you can handle a lot more than your brain thinks you can.
Whatever you do - good luck
2006-11-29 03:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acceptance, Independance and freedom.
Moving on is hard for the mind to change. It takes courage to move beyond your comfort zone, but if you really want to be free from 'them', you can if you change the way you think and feel about the past.
2006-11-28 23:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Presea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inagine a situation where you are carrying a heavy load on your back and walking. What do you do when you get into a train ? Do you still carry your load saying it is my load and I should carry? Or you put down the load?
There are many who donot put down the load, saying that they have to carry that!
You are exactly in that situation. You have to carry the the heavy feelings till you decide to take another way . And once you do that you offload the past. It is still with YOu but it does not feel heavy.
2006-11-28 21:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by YD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should always do whats best for the child. drop offs on neutral ground? or third party taxi service. children can learn to live in the 2 different worlds with a little help from at least one of the parties
2006-11-28 23:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by edward x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made you less free in the first place, was a moment of love & sex, which translates to responsibility.
You cannot be free from the ties between you and them, but you can be free from fear of guilt by reclaiming your responsibility.
"Courage is not to be fearless, it's to proceed inspite of fear"--Meryln Cundiff
2006-11-28 23:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by prabato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a time-out! Think of why you want to get away from them. Don't replace them with some1 who will be the same. Go out with different people and keep busy. After a very long time you may get over them......
2006-11-28 20:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some fatal attraction stuff, get over it, move on. What is the "can never be free from them", what does that mean. Either you are or you aren't, it is very simple.
2006-11-28 20:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be talking about emotional bondage. Physically, you can be free as ....a bird? No, a bird's flight requires flapping of its wings - and that's not free. As the wind? No, there are both natural and artificial wind breakers. As the sun? No, sometimes it get blocked by the cloud. As free as your heart desires, that's it.
2006-11-28 23:21:28 · answer #11 · answered by seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋