My boyfriend Jason - and soon-to-be father of my twin daughters (9 months pregnant) -is 25 in January - i just turned 17 - my Mum rekons hes to old - she practiacally hates - no - DISPISES him - what should I do to convince her hes a good guy - and more importantly will be an amzing dad ? ? ?
-Yahmina
2006-11-28 20:29:00 · 17 answers · asked by Yahmina 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
btw - WHEN JASON AND I HAD SEX - IT WAS PROTECTED.....! ******* latex...
2006-11-28 21:01:41 · update #1
The only thing you can do is give it time and let him prove himself to her after the babies are born. Mothers can be SOOO stubborn about boyfriends. It will do more harm then good to try to verbally explain to her that he's a good guy. After she sees what a good dad he is, she'll come around, and be grateful that he's no deadbeat. My mom hates my boyfriend too. So whenever he does something awesome i sort of subtly drop it to my mom in conversation and if she changes the subject, (which she always does) then i just go along with it. She'll come around. There really is no sense arguing about it. You definatly don't need the added stress! Oh and the birth will be fine- My best friend just gave birth, and she has huge back problems, and she only asked for an epidural at 9cm. You'll be fine! Good Luck!
2006-11-28 20:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally see where your mother is coming from, you have to understand she is your mom and she is concerned, however if your convince he's a good guy why don't you set up a date for only them two so they can spend some time together to get to know eachother.
I dunno there is something about a 25 year old wanting to be with a 16 year old that bothers me, isn't that against the law even in some places? You both are in very different stages right now, you haven't even experienced life yet where as he has, your not even old enough to go to a club yet. I dunno, I'm really not trying to put you down at all it just makes me wonder whenever I see these things happening.
Take care, good luck with your babies and all the best with your new family!
2006-11-28 20:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by åߪõ£úţέ мåŷá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm 18 and my boyfriend is 22 and i just had a baby gurl and i know what ur going through becuz my mom did not aprove of my boyfriend from the time we started going out,she even called the told me she was gonna call the cops and have him put in jail,it did'nt end there when she knew i was pregnant she was mad,and she stayed away for a couple of weeks then she came around after me an my boyfriend proved to her that we could take on the responsibility of having a baby and support the baby on are own.so just prove to her that you guys can do this and that he can support you and the babies.good luck! I hope all ends up better with your mom and the babies daddy!
2006-11-28 23:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU can't convince her of that. Only he can do that. Prove to her about his character. And to BOTH of you about his supposed parenting skills. I'm a parent and I would VERY ANGRY. What does a 17 yr old have in common with a 25 yr old (other than sex). Being 17 and having twins before your life has even started(so to speak)? It seems you have tied your hands behind your back before you left the gate. In either case I hope your boyfriend has a good job to support those kids, thier not cheap.
2006-11-28 20:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are nothing you can do right now......He lost your mothers trust by getting you pregnant at this early age. Now to win that trust back, he will need to provide for the kids....... diapers, formula, food, a car and if possible a home for the 4 of you! Show her he is going to be around and take care of the kids that will help her to like him more. Plus she may not liked the fact you got pregnant, but when those babies get here they will warm her heart.
It will take time but I think once he proves to be a great dad that will help.
2006-11-28 20:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that you have a very high mentality or this guy has a very low mentality. What business does someone of his age have dating and impregnating someone who isn't even considered an adult yet?
Your mom has every right to despise your boyfriend. I would despise any guy of that age have a relationship w/ my underage daughter. Have you ever heard of sagitory rape? Grant it you're almost of legal age, you were probably dating him when you were even younger than 16.
I don't think your mother will ever understand. All she sees is a grown man dating her baby girl.
Most men who date much your women/teens are only in it for the sex. He could leave you for an older women at anytime. Let's hope this isn't the case for the babies sake.
2006-11-28 20:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations! (I think!). There's probably not much you can do to change your mums opinion of your guy - only he can do that with time and persistence. If you're still happily together in 10-20 years from now, she wouldv'e have to have softened a bit! Then you can have the pleasure of saying "I told you so!"
2006-11-28 20:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by bougainvillaea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 12:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by schnetter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably good reason swhy your mom doesn't like him. First, he was irresponsible to have had sex with you at an early age. If he loves you, he could've waited for you.
Second, she doesn't really know him. You and your boyfriend should spend time together with your mom as well.
Third, she wants you to be happy. Maybe she still doesn't know that you really do love this guy... Let her know that you really love your boyfriend..
Your boyfriend should also do an extra effort in proving your mom that he is right for you.
2006-11-28 20:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Charmaine * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that u are pregnant with twins. I doubt 1/10 of all mothers will ever ask their daughters to go for abortion. If unfortunately, your mom is among the 1s... Well, consider elope. Your mom will appease after some time. So, no worry.
Cheer up & welcome to parenthood. The real challenge will be how you & your hubby to raise the children & build your home. :-)
2006-11-28 20:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋