A year ago, I discovered that my boyfriend cheated me. Upon discovering that he had a fling, I made him choose between me and the girl. He chose me because he realized that he loves me so much and that he even claimed that he was an idiot for hurting me so bad. At present, I am informed by the girl that they no longer communicate to each other and that my boyfriend says that he doesn't care about her anymore. Am I right for even asking whether the girl is happy now because I only want to have a peace of mind? My boyfriend and I are getting married this coming December. We both agreed with my father. Can my broken up trust to him be 100% again?
2006-11-28 20:28:21 · 7 answers · asked by vanderlitt v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hi there you are getting married in december .......look im not going to say do /or do not do this but you have to make sure that you want to marry this man now that this has happened and you also have to make youre mind up if you are going to throw the fact that he cheated in his face every time you fall out ......when this happens you have to give the relationship a chance to see if you want to save it and it can take a long time to fix it and it is up to you if you can trust him 100% after this as some woman and im one of them did always have a sneaky feeling that it could happen again ......since this has came to light do you feel that the relationship has changed ......if you say no here you are lying ....not to me ....but to youre self ......and you are not doing youre self any favours ........just stop and think things through and never mind about youre wedding day at the moment ......i know that sounds hard but you have to make sure things are right for you .......and if there are any doubts please do youre self and do not go through with youre wedding and trust me on this one ......all the guests well they will get over it .....theu are not the ones in this problem and remember they are the ones that are coming to see you get married .......not live youre life after the wedding day ......you have to do that bit and i would hate to think that you got married for the wrong reasons ....good luck and take time out and work out what you are feeling and where you want to go with this situation ..........xx
2006-11-28 20:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think it can ever be 100% regained. I've been there and while I still loved her very much every time she would be secretive about anything I would wonder if she was doing it again. I tried my best to trust in her... It was very difficult though. And it turned out the trust was misplaced..... She cheated again.
2006-11-28 21:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by knite_hawk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
genuine I truly have acquaintances which have instructed me secrets and techniques to human beings in third grade i'm in eighth now, yet I nonetheless don't think them thoroughly easily everyone appears to be like diverse, some human beings might want to shake it off, yet others will carry grudges for years (like me :P)
2016-10-07 22:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course it can but it would have to be up to you if you already forgave him and have remain with him cause you are in love then maybe its time for you to forget if you want your marriage to work.
2006-11-28 20:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on person to person...if he cheated u because of sex...yes he mite do it again...but if sex was not involved...u can trust him again..all the best...
2006-11-28 20:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by sureshflourish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not for a very long time trust is earned not given
2006-11-28 20:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by beefcowsboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. but live for the future not the past.
2006-11-28 20:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋