Ok...my twin sister married a man that i slept with....Her husband...my x-lover stems from an extremly religious catholic background and they frown on homosexuality...my sister knows i'm gay...but has no idea that i've slept with her husband many times...i want him back and i know he's just married to her so he won't be judged or frowned upon by his family and friends and society....i thought about telling my twin sister before she married him but he made me swear on our lives that i would keep my mouth shut ...since the've been married (a little over a year) we've fooled around maybe 7 times but now he's telling me he want to try to be straight and i just cant live without him ...should i tell my sister??? should i try to convince her husband that hoimosexuality isnt a sin??? and thats just who he is and that its ok to be gay?
2006-11-28 20:24:55 · 18 answers · asked by Nol 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
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2006-11-28 20:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jim T 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break off the affair and keep silent about it. Revealing your affair will not improve anyones life and would cause much heartache. Its time to move on.
God hates nothing he created, even Lucifer was God's greatest creation. It was through his own sin and actions he became something unacceptable to God. God loves all people. He created them to be loved. Mankind was given free will. He won't force anyone to follow Him or love Him. Homosexuality is not something you were born with. It is a choice you made. The devil will try to convince you otherwise. The Bible is God's Word for us. It is our owners manual. It says sin is sin. God is willing to forgive that sin and forget it. Ask God to forgive you and find a Bible believing church. If you want things to get better in your life you have to make a conscience decision to make those changes.
2006-11-28 20:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by djm749 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man-oh-man... have you gotten yourself into something......
I feel bad for your sister......
Did she know about you and her husband before?...... and did the fellow she marry only marry her to hide his homosexuality?.....
I understand how you feel, my friend..... But, your ex had already made the decision to marry this woman.......
and no matter what you had before, what he has now should not include you......
Your thoughts are selfish.....
Do not mention this to your sister, as you may truely break her heart.... and if you really love her and value her presence as a sister, you will protect that relationship by treating it just like that.....
leave that man alone..... there are literally milions of other fellows out there.... This one is already spoken for......
Your sister,
Ginger
2006-11-28 20:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations for being out of the closet. Second, I think that if your ex/ brother-in-law wants to 'try' being faithful to your sister, he should. Being completely gay and being completely straight are two ends of a spectrum and there are degrees in between- and your ex/ brother in law might be one of the many who are between the two. If your ex/ brother in law finds that being faithful to your sister is impossible and wants to come back to you, be strong and resist. Why? Because this guy needs to gain some maturity and realize that if he cannot "change his gayness to straightness", then he needs to FIRST confront all the people he has lied to- especially his parents, his wife/ ur sister, and your parents. A person like you who is out and is mature enough to NOT HIDE who he is deserves to be with someone who is just as strong of a person. Hang in there!
2006-11-28 20:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the fake guilt trip. You like being in this mess of your own doing. The drama makes you feel important. But you have hurt your blood family -- regardless of what your sister knows - it will be known by all soon - 'fess up now and move to another state and leave your poor sister alone!
2006-11-28 20:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself what are your motives for doing this, know ing you are going to cause a lot of pain.
Do you want to protect your sister from any future pain? Do you want to "get back" at her husband for breaking off from you? Do you want to make a melodramatic, self-affirming statement about yourself? All of the above?
BE careful if your reasons have to do with your own selfishness, and do not serve those whom you love and love you.
2006-11-28 20:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ecks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you ought to inform your sister what occurred. tell her you've been blind inebriated, like you stated. and also you didnt advise to sleep with him, and she shouldnt be mad at purely you. Im constructive you didnt rape him, so he must have finished each and every thing decrease back, top? until eventually you've been both inebriated. if so i might want to easily tell your sister that you've been both truly inebriated and also you haven't any emotions in the direction of her husband. Dont connect to him back, because your sister will likely ask what percentage cases youve finished it and in case you say youve finished it better than once itll hit her like a ton of bricks.
2016-10-07 22:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your sister- and NOT just to try to get him, but, because she deserves to know & she needs to get away from him. You should also not continue any type of interaction w/ him, even if they get divorced because that would continue to hurt her.
WHERE are your priorities?! You should have more loyalty to your sister because that is horrible. I hope there aren't kids involved...
2006-11-28 20:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a scumbag and a home wrecker. Find your own man. If you sister never forgives you it will be too soon.
2006-11-28 20:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing comes to mind after reading your little story.
Silence is golden. Plus you need to get your own sordid life in order.
2006-11-28 20:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by no nickname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋