Right now I feel like if I can't be with the person I love, I should be with no one, because they'd always be a replacement for the person I really loved and being with them for that reason is unfair to them and myself. Is this a good way to think?
I just want to love this girl and be with her, but she loves somebody else. Who probably will never love her nearly as much as I do.
2006-11-28 20:09:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
move on as sad as it is you will find happiness
2006-11-28 20:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never pick next best person.
Healing is process... But you first have to admit to yourself that you will give up that one you love.
Than take your time and new love will come.
Take only good out of love never returned. Love is not only about you being happy, but about you being happy coz of happiness of other person.
So, one day there must be someone who will love you the way you love her. It might be even now, but you are too much in what you feel toward her.
So wait until you can love back coz it would be very unfair to cheat yourself and someone else about emotions you don't really have.
2006-11-28 20:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're exactly right in you're first statement that it will be unfair to you and the other person if you just settle for them knowing very well that you're in love with someone else. First of all if you get together with someone that you do not love you are taking away that opportunity for her to find that person who will "REALLY" love her because she's with you and vice versa. Give yourself sometime to re-asses what you really like. Besides you can't force someone to love you. Let it be and if you two are meant to be together that girl will realize that she needs you in her life.
Good luck on that...
2006-11-28 20:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by sk97us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this has happened to me and it is not a pleasant feeling, I just move on and try to find someone else, or I lay low until I get over a failed relationship. I don't force myself on anyone, there are plenty of others out there and maybe someday you will meet up with the right one that will love you back. :)
2006-11-28 21:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more than one true love. So you can let go of her immediately, seriously, I don't think there's only one soulmate. I think we come across possible soulmates once in a great while. And your not cheating yourself by finding someone better. And you will find some one better. You can't force someone to love you. A one sided love is not a real loving relationship.
2006-11-28 20:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're cheating yourself if you were w/ a person who doesn't love you back. Move on you will find someone else who does the same thing to you.
2006-11-28 20:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your decision to stay without some one because the one that you love, loves some one else is a very very wise decision. if you chose the second best, more than cheating your self you'd be cheating on her. because every time you tell her that you love her, you'd be lying to her.
BTW, have you ever told the girl you love about how you feel. if not i think you should. maybe she doesn't know that you are in love with her.
2006-11-28 20:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Piggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lemme rephrase this question for you. If you can't have what you need from one thing, should you get it from another?
YES.
You aren't settling by accepting a gift from someone else that one person has denied you. You ARE settling if you deny yourself the joy of loving and being loved so you can suffer as a martyr for another one.
2006-11-28 20:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone and they don't love you back then you are obviously not meant for each other and your infatuation may turn into an obsession and all and all you'll be the one getting hurt. I would say if you didn't start seeing other people you will be worse off.
2006-11-28 20:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are young morbid just curious ....man just meet some girls and have some fun if your a kid i understand it seems like the end of the world but trust me get a little salt in ya and you will see it all will be ok
2006-11-28 20:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 move on as hard as it may seem but she's already taken..
if u were in her bf's shoes, wud u want someone 2 love& want ur gf knowing that she already has u???
always apply it 2 urself..
but in order 4u 2b happy, dnt compare other girls 2d 1 u luv.. if u do that, u wont b able 2 notice d gudness of other girls around u
2006-11-28 20:25:49 · answer #11 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋