My husband met a woman on myspace and i found out he was talking crap about me with her. He told her he didnt love me anymore and that he is "stuck" in our marriage, amongst other not so nice things.... I confronted him and he told me he was lying to her. They ended up having cybersex after only knowing each other for 5 days. He says it is over with her and he wants to work on our relationship. I have reason to believe he is still comunicating with her. Am I stupid to think he can't love me and talk like that about me.....? Would you talk bad about someone you love with a stranger?
2006-11-28 20:03:16 · 12 answers · asked by Real 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he loves you he would never say bad things about you to another woman. He would not even have sex talk with another woman. As a man, I vent all the time with male friends. Once in a while I vent to female friends but not about my marrage. Mostly kids or mother in law problems. Even if your marriage is bad, he still should not do that to you. Do you do that to him?? Dr.Phil once said "If a man is thirsty he will find water". Is he thirsty?
If you are faithful and good wife, try this.
1. Disconnect your internet. And see how he reacts.
or
2. Get counciling.
or
2. Kick his *ss out of the house.
2006-11-28 20:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tiger Crane Master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really awful and he obviously lacks in character...among other things. I'm curious to know how you have all this information . I'd take a deep look at the relationship with this man and it's possible that this is just the tip of the iceberg. He's in need of attention obviously.
No, I'd not talk bad about my husband to anyone unless I wanted to gain something for myself. I would not say you are "stupid" but possibly seeing this individual through rose colored glasses.
Do you think he feels stuck? Are you stuck, because you have a family to take care of? I don't think this type of behavior men and women engage in is just for the hell of it. Look at the marriage, your sex life and so on. I'm sure he loves you but it does not sound like actions one "in love" would engage in.
I wish you well.
2006-11-28 20:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband cheated with another women on line. That is pretty bad. He even spoke awful things to her about you.
Your husband did a very terrible thing, when he disgraced you to this women. No doubt he did this to make himself look good to the other women. He needed her sympathy, so she would put out.
You seriously need to think about what you want from your husband now. You are the innocent party, and need to make the decision for your future. Some times men feel neglected and they look else where for comfort and love. But this is wrong. He should of talked to you about his feelings before this.
Even if you had some problems, he should of came to you about them, and not talk trash about you to a stranger.
He sinned against you, when he had cybersex, and when he disgraced you.
Try to get some counseling if he seriously wants to work it out. And you do to.
But if he continues on this path, pretty soon he will want the live girl to fool around with, not the cybergirl. You need to then make the decision to separate. Or sadly leave for good. I hope you can work it out, for God hates a divorcing. But he really hates adultery.
2006-11-28 20:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually people associate being online with a whole new world or experience... maybe your husband really is unhappy & maybe he just wanted to create an outlet for himself.. If your marriage is important trust is a major factor.. so I hope you can work it out.. alot of times people dont always think of the consequences to the things we do.. he probably never considered that u would find those conversations.. anyway best of love to you.. Oh I will leave u with 1 thought.. if he really is unhappy... a stranger is probably the easiest person for him to admit it to... not the best... but the easiest.. for him
2006-11-28 20:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by soulful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and I bet he is meeting her too. I would get on line while he's not there and scare the begibers out of her.and say why are you messing arround with a married man I would ask point blank how long this had been going on. I would pull the plug on the internet too.
2006-11-28 20:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, is that a joke? cos if it is u got me. but just in case it isn't - your relationships re not normal to my point of view. not only a man should have absolutely no time for any cyber sex or any other online communications with other women cos he shold work hard to bring me more honey, also he shouldn't have any desire to do so. i wouldn't tolerate if man was even talking to another woman. even not about me. just talking. he would fly very fast from the place we both live. so i suggest u do the same with him. your man is not a good man. good man wouldn't do such things
2006-11-28 20:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't respectful to you.
The illusion of love happens.
He has someone who gives him what he wants, but it isn't reality.
Internet has opened a whole new way of communications. And people talk to strangers about things that they would never talk to others about.
He is having what I would call an emotional affair. He needs some counseling. you both do.
2006-11-28 20:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by sugarsweetsweetiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get real 60 hours a week, the man is working, an trying to do he job, every heard boy toy. well she playing you an you falling for it ... now she state he a loser,she learn you young an want new meat in the bed, but think, what if he find out you playing around with her, do you think 300 miles mean any thing.too you state she been married before, god gave you a brain , son use it
2016-05-23 01:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me he had some things to get off his chest,otherwise why not lie about being married at all?..did he end the " relationship" with her after you found out about it?..this doesn't bode well...if your "in love" with someone you would not probably talk badly about them,nor would you be fantasy date searching..he might care alot about you,maybe even have love for you..is this enough to sustain a healthy marriage?..maybe...there are alot of intangibles,that we(the public) don't know here,your best bet is to talk to a counselor!
2006-11-28 20:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by eric r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I prefer the true even if it is paintful .
I think that is better to find the true and you must try to find the real true not a " sweet " version of it.
And after that you will know what to do . Choose what is the best for you not for the situation .
2006-11-28 20:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by davida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋