When i have sex with my wife i usually come within 30 seconds?

Question

When i have sex with my wife i usually come with in 30 seconds and then we usually never try the second time.
Can you guys really help me how to solve my problem

Answer 1

Did you practise holding back when you masturbated growing up. Basically every time I masturbated growing up I'm practising holding back and recognizing the feeling of getting close then backing off. Its just slowing down or slightly changing your rhythm. Its a practise thing. Also pulling out (if slowing down doesn't help) and tapping your glans (tip) against your wife's vagina will stop you from climaxing if you are getting close. (the part facing away from your belly button) Other ways to help prevent climax. Wear a condom. Masturbate relatively often or have sex more often. I have a much harder time holding back if I haven't ejaculated in a while. Experiment with your body in this regard. They also have creams that supposedly delay climax. I've never tried them so I don't know how effective they are. The solution is in here. Good luck.

Answer 2

One of the reasons is that there is a small muscle in you butt that actually controls the flow of your body waste that go through penis. Basically I'm talking about the one you use to stop peeing before you're even done. If you "flex" that muscle and hold it for a couple of seconds everyday, you will eventually be able to control your ejaculation. If you pay a little more attention you'll see that as you have more sex and try not to ejaculate you're basically training that muscle and throughout time it gets stronger. Another reason is that if you're a virgin and it is you're first time having sex, it's completely natural.

Answer 3

This is known as permature ejaculation.

I don't know how old you are, but this is pretty typical with younger males. Like a few others have said, think of or picture yourself doing something else. Try thinking about things you need to accomplish at work the next day, the last sporting event you watched, etc. If this doesn't help you, when you start to feel you are getting close to ejaculation, pull out and squeeze the blood out of the head of your penis, then start again. Check out the link to find out some more info. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

First and foremost, stop thinking about performance in sex. sex is more than just a performance. Its purely a pshychological game. If you feel, you will *** early, you will. Only you can stop this, no one else. Learn about Kegel technique, info is available on net. Take out your penis when you feel its cumming. also as suggested by many, think about other things like work, sports or some shopping etc. more over have a confidence that you can do it. you will suceed.

Answer 5

Man focus on the foreplay. Enjoy togetherness and sex each other up. Don't enter immediately.

When you enter focus on other things, like everyday routine things and take your mind away from coming. Let it be as if you are having sex and that's incidental.

Then once you are not thinking it will take time. Also its good to talk as it takes your mind away while going in and out .

Hope this helps for you.

Answer 6

Think of something that doesn't turn you on ...like work , your pet, or a relative...sounds silly buy i've heard it works. Also slow down a little when u feel like you are about to come.
Another way is to get yourself off an hour or so before sex with your wife.

Answer 7

have u tried to concentrate on something else.. even something unpleasant.. long enough to give her more enjoyment...because I'm pretty certain this is causing a problem in your marriage, because it doesnt seem possible that she's getting her release that quickly (it's possible but not EVERYtime) and by the way u said "when I have sex with my wife" does that mean you're having sex with another person/persons?

Answer 8

O.K LISTEN UP! First of all....DONT THINK OF GROSS STUFF to distract yurself....i mean jeeeze c;mon ppl. You r in the moment with a woman you love. Rule number one!!! BE PRESENT...Make it last other ways...kiss..licking...touching breathing..on her belly ..breasts....legs...stimulate that clitoris...then have a little bit of intercourse..if you cant hold on...get out....get down there again....do this as many time as neaded. I havent even mentioned the g-spot......(thats a hole other subject.) i am sure she will appreciate the extra time you spend on her. I know you would like to get on her and just pump it for an hour and make her scream.....Forget it it aint gonna happen.....yet...and it really isnt important. TIP: dont pull out cuz you cant hold on...Pull out cuz you want to pleasure her another way. SHE HAS TO WAIT TILL YOUR READY......this will make you feel great....feel like a man ....the rest will come with time im sure.......

Answer 9

There are 2 things to try. 10 have your wife learn the squeeze technique which is detailed in any sex manual. or 2) have her bring you off by another means, and you should last longer when you get to vaginal intercourse.

Answer 10

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