I am going to be get married.....it's an arrange marrige.....so I don't know how should I start. He always gives a lot of instructions to me. I am trying my best to change myself but I feel he is not happy. What should i do?
2006-11-28 19:24:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Arrange to not marry him. Bet he's one of those control freaks.
2006-11-28 19:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look babe, i don't want to sound mean but plz make sure you don't change yourself for anyone, i know you must be in india and how it is, but trust me india's changing too, and if you set some ground rules in the beginning ou will make life easier for yourself and people around you, you don;t want to be pushed around all you life, its not magic that you change or expect someone to change, you r grown individuals, the formative years have passed learn to accept and love each other for who you are not someone yu have to be to plz him, plzz... respect yourself!! all the best
2006-11-29 03:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by aditigsamai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is in your heart? Be true to yourself. Treat others as you would like to be treated. You will set the standard on how he will treat you by the way you treat yourself. Goodluck.
2006-11-29 03:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt there are many people on this site who are subservient so you're asking the wrong group.We don't change ourselves to please men we find men who love us for who we are and we don't allow ourselves to be forced into arranged marriages so maybe you should ask your parents.
2006-11-29 03:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my darling please don't try to change yourself for him ! you are who you are ! and you should be proud of that ! if he is unhappy then he has issues with himself tell him that you cant stand seeing him so unhappy and that he needs to tell you whats wrong , because he is making you feel as if its you that's the problem ! tell him you want him to be happy and that he needs to find himself before he can be happy with you !
good luck :)
2006-11-29 03:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by lelanilama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somethings take time. do your best and try to let your goodness show through. if there is love in your heart they will find it. or run like hell and tell no one where you are.
2006-11-29 03:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by GoatFingers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the clicker and lots of sex and he will never stray.
2006-11-29 03:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by daniel c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spell out (verablly) your boundaries and maintain them.
2006-11-29 03:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change.......love her........try to have fun with her
2006-11-29 03:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bern C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself the way you are and don't try to please others. Ironically, this is the best way to please others.
2006-11-29 03:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by halitobro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋