Help, my 16 year old son is dating a black girl!?

Question

What can i do to make him like white girls? I tried putting posters of Cameron Diaz, Britney Spears etc on his wall, but he takes it down.
I even took him to this place out of town and was prepared to splash out a couple of hundred dollars but he chose the black one. What can i do? Please respond with only serious remarks and not racist ones. Thanks!!

Answer 1

Being that you're from an older generation it's probably a little more difficult to accept, but you have to realize today that color never has and never will matter when it comes to who a person truely is. Open your mind and heart and learn to accept it. Get to know the girl. You might surprised that we're all one in the same.

Answer 2

Truthfully, I believe there is little you can do to influence an already made up mind. Actually, I can speak from some experience. I am honest enough to say that I am attracted to men of color; that's just how I am. Sometimes all it takes is understanding and perhaps a little more trust towards your son. Little can be done and unless the relationship turns out abusive, my guess is that you should just trust your son to make his own mistakes. That way, he can afford to trust you in the long run since he would know that you're on his side. Sound clear? I hope that helps! Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think you should try to do anything. Those words "should, you need to" etc are words that people use to others when it really is about themselves. So, I will rephrase it. In my opinion and experience it was confusing to be told what to do because of my parents beliefs. If he's a good kid and keeps you involved in his life I would see that as a gift. Keep the lines of communication open and set a good example by your own actions. Help lead him into being a responsible, honorable kind respectful young adult. The very fact that you are judging him does not set a good example. You may want to do some soul searching for yourself and find out why this is so bothersome to you because I guarantee if it was not the fact that he's dating a black girl there would be something else you'd find fault in. Personally I see it as a control issue and it's more about you than him. Take care.

Answer 4

This dating, b/f,g/f is just a matter of ones internal choice or motivation. A free society, where the young man lives, don't have any rules or regulations like that in the question. Moreover it don't ask or compel for any thing to adopt.
If we turn back to a natural scenario, where there all necessary rules (certain restrictions ) and regulations (certain procedures to follow) have been pre-set.
But this modern mislead society don't like to follow and adopt any law or rule or regulation. As a matter of fact this whole drama of b/f,g/f and dating don't bear any moral and/or ethical values.
If we want to teach or convince our kids we must ask for some thing good, decent in accordance with morality and dignity.
Is it not an alarming situation that whole of the new generation is trying for some thing which their grands or great grands have never ever done ~ b/f,g/f, dating.

Answer 5

You don't say why you object to your son's dating a black girl. He is very young and should be able to pick and chose who he is dating, this doesn't mean that he will mary any certain race of ladies but why is it so important for him to date only white girls. You ask that we respond with only serious remarks and not racists ones but yet you seem to be a racist yourself. Let him grow up and decide what his future holds as far as the ladies in his life will be. He has several years and probably college to think about before any serious relationship occures so let him grow up dad. Good luck to all of you and have a merry christmas.

Answer 6

Open your heart and see that your blood is just as red as hers. I am white and there are no people of color in my family but i wish there were. Life would be more interesting. This young girl you are trying to toss aside could be your only advocate in your old age. Plus have you asked why your son has a thing for black girls rather than white? I can tell you from my perspective and I am old enough to have a son your age--white girls come across superficial far more than black girls. Black girls not only have incredible beauty and grace but they have a sense of pride that is rare in white girls. I am at a university and I observe people all the time. I think I know what I am talking about. Get at the root of your fears and leave your son to his own choosing. Let him go Mama--trust that you put in him all the love and wisdom you can and throw out those silly posters-you don't want your boy to be thinking of woman like those girls--they are about as real as the moon is made of cheese.

Answer 7

Your son is human, and He likes girls. Be happy for him and let him explore life as it is meant to be. Don't be so hung up on the color of skin he is dating. My father told long time ago, if a person respects you, likes you, then no matter the skin color, return the same.
Look at the world as an apple. most all are good for you. You can tell the ones that are not. This goes across the board of all cultures.

Answer 8

You took him to WHAT place? Are you saying you bought your son a hooker?!?! Geez. It is a free country, man, your son should be able to date anyone he wants. You can't change him, trying will only make him rebel against you. If you really don't like it, talk to him as an adult, ask him to respect your wishes, but you have to respect his in return. That doesn't mean he'll stop. See, I am white, I'm a girl, in MY personal preference, I wouldn't date a black guy, but I don't have anything against people doing so, or even *shocker to you* being gay. Lighten up.

And it seems you are the one that's racist.

Answer 9

What's wrong with him dating a black girl? Why does race matter so much to you? She's a human, just like the white girls, she just looks different. If your son really likes her you shouldn't try to stand in his way about this. HE is the one who must choose his partner, not you. If you can't accept who he chooses, then you will probably ruin your relationship with your son by trying to stop him. Is that what you want? Do you want your son to be genuinely happy in his life or do you want to dictate his life according to your own old-fashioned, prejudiced views and make him miserable?

If you love your son for who he is then you will accept and respect his choices, including his choice of a partner, even if his choices don't meet your ideals.

Answer 10

"Help, my 16 year old son is dating a black girl!?"

"Please respond with only serious remarks and not racist ones. Thanks!!"

Pot, Kettle, Calling, Black. Make these words into a sentence.

You don't want your son to date black girls, so you take him to a strip club. You really are a moral compass aren't you?