She is like a cold fish.
2006-11-28 18:55:13 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do everything....the moves....the positions etc. but she is a flatliner! help.
2006-11-28 18:57:52 · update #1
Well you better learn how to take time for foreplay... if she is cold warm it up! Guys like to jump right to it because they are so easily aroused. Face it, you have one part to please she has multiple. Pay attention to all of the special places, make the foreplay last all day by grabbing, fondling, and dirty talk. Make her feel sexy by telling her how good she looks and what you find sexy about her.
Example: If you catch her bending over go up behind her rub that butt and tell her how you much it turns you on to see her bend over like that.
When you are out in public fondle her breast while no one is paying attention but the security cameras, some people find that exciting.
Slow down when you are about to be intimate and maybe give her a full body massage, paying special attentionb with your mouth and hands to those special places that I mentioned before .
2006-11-28 19:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the size that makes sex between a couple enjoyable or climatic. It's communication. Being secure with eachother that she knows you want to please her and vice versa. Rather than doing things the same way, how about cuddle and fondle her. No penetration and tell her how much you love her.
Some women take longer to get aroused, she may need oral stimulation, a new setting. Something is going on with your wife and she is not sharing. Don't be insulted if she opens up. Listen and reassure her that you only have eyes for her. Compliament her. Sex is just the act... but foreplay and getting into a sexual mood from both partners is important.
If you guys can afford to go to sex therapist that would be last resort. Maybe work on your relationship outside the bed. Something is going on... have either of u strayed away? Has there been adultery in the relationship? Unless there is a medical condition, showing your wife intimacy is very different than having sex. Try being more tender and loving rather than get in some awkward position, she can't stand, nor wants but is afraid of saying anything. You might need to wine, dine her and just talk about what it means to be married. Giving massage or bathing her by candle light. Go slow and easy...and find out what she wants, likes. Share with her what makes you really excited. Hope things work out because being physically attracted to eachother is an important part of marriage.
2006-11-29 03:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it has to do with something more than your sex organ. Might be your penis is oppositely proportionate in comparison to your personality- i.e. you may be a big of a prick as your penis is. Takes more than a physical endowment to be a good lover. Why don't you cool it with the narcissistic ego trip and pay some real loving caring attention to your wife?
2006-11-29 03:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Size of your dick has nothing to do with pleasing you wife. Many men just don't know how to arouse a lady, Some how women takes quite some time to come in mood, depends on man, Read some articles about how to bring a lady into mood, Just jumping to the climax turns women into cold fish as she is just not enjoying anything.Lot of excitement and foreplay is needed for women, but usually men don't have so much patience. Try to get more information about how to arouse women and try to be her friend and not God, as God is for praying , but friend is for loving........hope you understand what I mean.........best of luck.
2006-11-29 03:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answers are all about the men changing what they like to please the women. What about what the men want? Why can't a woman decide not to be a flatliner so she can please her man, then the man will be more receptive of change.
2006-11-29 14:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by kobisky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It got nothing to do with the penis for her, its probably got more to do with oral stimulation.
dont forget foreplay, try getting her in the mood with a nice massage, and her fave romantic music.
Just a small price to pay ... if u get the benifits of it later :)
2006-11-29 03:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more to it than sex. You have to get her in the mood first, do something something romantic. Take a bath with some candles around the tub and seduce her, then take it to the bed. Please her first before you make love then once she is satisified then do you buiness. Women are more complicated then men... they have to be in the right state of mind before sex or they wont be pleased.
2006-11-29 02:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jessy82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be interested in trying something new and out of the ordinary. Talk to her about it. If you are married, you should feel secure enough to discuss your sex life. Ya never know... she way want to expierment. Penis size has nothing to do with it.... and if it does... they have drugs and surgery to fix it.
2006-11-29 02:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Stevie K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all about the size. The first couple of inches of the vagina have the most nerves, so they are the most sensitive. So if you are bigger than most guys, chances are her most sensitive spots are being completely missed. You're going to have to change your technique, or get yours through sex and give her hers manually, orally, or with toys.
2006-11-29 02:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is paramount, once my wife and I opened up and were able to be honest and ourselves, everything changed. The sex was better than ever. It may be that your wife just does not like sex. it is hard to say.. but be honest with her and your wants and needs.. ask her what she want's and what her fantasies are. good luck
2006-11-29 02:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋