is it considered an affair?

Question

If my wife was to have a friend that she would open up to and tell personal secrets to about her and me, would that be considered a relationship? If so would that relationship be considered a extramarital affair?

Answer 1

There is such a thing as emotional affair and sometimes affairs start out this way. If your wife is confiding with another man other than you, it shows a lack of intimacy in your marriage. Also realize that time spent talking with this "friend" is time taken away from you. The way I see it, you are her husband. If she has issues with you, she should be communicating with you instead.

Answer 2

Hi, Not yet is an extramarital affair, but it is fast approaching that. That is how most affairs start. They start to confide in friends of the opposite sex. They tell them personal things about life with their spouses, cry on the friends shoulder so to speak, and soon they are involved in a sexual affair. One should NEVER divulge the problems they are having with their spouses to others unless they are being physically abused and even then they should go to a professional who can help them, like the police. You need to put your foot down, talk to her and tell her she is playing with fire. Good Luck!

Answer 3

If the friend was a female, I would say no. I talk to my closest female friend about everythig! If it was a male, well, is he gay? If so, it wouldn't be like that. It sounds like if you are questioning the relationship, try to get her to open up about it. Spend more time with her. Spend time with the two of them.

Also, ask yourself why you feel so uncomfortable about this man. Sometimes people are able to sense when there is something going on between two people hust by their body language, etc. If you are feeling that, or feel like the man is in to your wife, get counseling, confront her, tell him to back off, etc.

Answer 4

Yes! Yes! Yes! Because it is a betrayal of trust on both your parts. If any woman did the same to you in a reversal of your situation you would be the first to see it that way. You are dancing around the burning bush of latent adultery by thinking with your nether regions instead of your heart and mind by compromising the integrity of all involved and affected. No good can possibly evolve by the continuance of your indiscretion.

Answer 5

if she's telling your personal secrets to a male then it is considered to be an emotional affair because she would go to him for support instead of you

if its a female don't worry

but if its a female and your wife is into women also, then you have a reason to worry

Answer 6

It cant be a affair, but that shows she is seeking someone's opinion or advice to go through her personal problems, which she might cant tell you. Trust your wife, you will have a good relationship, if your suspect her than your marriage will turn sour.

Answer 7

If it's a girlfriend, then no it's not an affair. Everybody has at least one friend they tell stuff to.

Answer 8

if its a girlfriend then its not
if he's a guy friend if she tells about your sex life then i think it is because when a woman and a man talks about sex they already crossed the line of intimacy without really doing it

Answer 9

Hahahaha! You're silly... I would have to say that it is platonic relationship, and because it is platonic... than no. It isn't an affair.

Answer 10

If she just telling someone about the personal things that ya'll do together then no it's not. It'll be different if they were doing the nasty behind your back.