i love my boyfriend alot he and i have been together for 2 months and he has been talking to his ex for awhile now they were together for a year and a half and they had a horrible relationship from what he and his family told me he was left with a bunch of dept and a broken heart, he moved away and now hes with me. but they still talk to eachother on myspace both ending with i love you... but he tells me he loves me everyday .what should i do??
2006-11-28 18:27:28 · 12 answers · asked by nrcl1987 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move on. it's only been 60 days. he's not over her.
2006-11-28 18:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him time to get over her, but then he would not get over her if he is talking to her and ends with an 'I love you', I dont think so. You must tell him your concerns, while also not to get desperate yourself. Tell him he can choose his own way, but you cannot be the ''other'' woman. I suggest you move away from him for sometime, giving him time to reassess his own feelings, if he comes back, he loves you, or else, it would be sad, but you may have to accept the fact. One and a half years is a very long time, they have spent time together, and you wouldnt know what they have shared. Plus the debts, which obviously he was a part of. He has some issues personally to solve by himself. Dont get into the mess yourself. Your concern is you love him sincerely, and it is only fair that you 'demand' sincerity from his side. Talk, discuss, and raise your concerns and then see what he has to say. Everyday talking to his ex and ending the conversation with an 'I love you' is really not what you think his love is for you, but he is balancing her, and you together. You cannot be treated as ''something on the side'', while she play an important role 'still' in his life.
As I said, again, talk, discuss and raise your concerns. Where you stand in his life is what you have to decide with him. And then move on. Your life does not end there. Does it ?
good luck
2006-11-29 02:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry my dear. I am sure he loves you. But please do the following;
Just findout why they broke. If that reason has some fault with the girl, then please don't do the same thing. Again try to find out what he likes and what he doesn't. Do what he likes and don't do what he doesn't. Make sure you show youe affection to him all the time. talk to him and understand him. Don't ever ask him "Why are you talking to your ex.Girl again". If you do so, he thinks that youa are a pain. let him do what ever he likes. If you show him the best love, he soon will stop all those very soon. Anyhow I have a feeling that he has no more love with his ex. Girl.. Sometimes she must be having some thoughts. So understand him and grab to you by doing good and be only his hope. ---- Good Luck------ You will be successful.
2006-11-29 02:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kamal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would definitely ask him about it. to me, theres no reason to tell an EX i love you! even if he felt that way..he shouldnt verbally express it to her. its like he wants her to know hes not over her just so he can have a chance of getting back with her or something. if someone has an ex they are an ex for a reason, meaning that its over. so why the heck is he still talking to her?! especially when its been for a while. i would question that. i would keep my eyes on him if i were you cuz that doesnt sound to trustworthy. if he loves u he would consider your feelings and hopefully he'll cut off all ties with her..like he shoulda done in the first place! wouldnt he feel upset if u did the same thing to him?
2006-11-29 02:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by shoppingfreak05 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends.
It Is possible to love someone without being In Love with them.
how long were they together? and how long ago did they break it off? Things to maybe consider. also has he tried to hide the on-going contact?
If he is hiding things from yo already, don't expect anything more. EVER!
good luck
2006-11-29 02:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they're still talking and they end their talks with "I love you's" I would be wondering too.
you should talk to him about how this is making you feel. this is his ex. so why does he need to talk to her at all? and why is he telling her that he loves her? he's not being fair to you or your relationship. and you need to tell him this. from the way it sounds, he loves you both, and thinks that should be okay, but it's not. he needs to choose who he wants for a girlfriend, not keep you wondering.
Good Luck With Everything
2006-11-29 02:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yup he's definately into her. a year and a half takes a while to get over, even it was a terrible relationship. i'm sure he's into you. so u can either leave him and move onto someone who's over their ex, or you confront him, or you can stay with this guy and hope that they someday stop communicating.
2006-11-29 02:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by abc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do they end their conversations with "I love you" ? That seems odd. hy are they speaking to each other? If he's with you then that should end due to their tempestuous relationship and how recent their break-up is. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him and make him come clean with you about his feelings.
2006-11-29 02:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound stupid so why are you acting it ?
Give him an ultimatum...............tell him to choose YOU or the Highway. He is laughing in your face by talking behind your back with this sleaze. They are probably having cyber-sex.
Do the right thing, I hope there are no kids involved.
2006-11-29 02:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him what the hell is goin on! i'd be pissed girl
2006-11-29 02:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tainted Soul 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋