battered wife problem,is it normal to marriage life and you are willing to take it as a part of being married?
2006-11-28 18:22:30 · 16 answers · asked by marian r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
absolutely not. I would never stay with any one if they were abusive, physically or verbally.
That is not a relationship
2006-11-28 18:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sicily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable. How to save your marriage https://tr.im/e9qhh
However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?
You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.
2016-02-11 11:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW!!! No it isn't normal and the longer you are in that type of a relationship the worse it usually gets. Don't waste anymore of your life on that sorry excuse of a human being. A real man doesn't abuse his spouse, he protects and loves her. I know that it is hard to see past the situation that you are in now, but you can actually make a better life for yourself and children (if you have any) by leaving. Remember, the older a woman gets the less likely chance of remarriage. I don't know if you would like to find a better relationship or just be single, but ANYTHING is better then being abused. I stayed with my abusive husband for 18 years (for the sake of the kids) and nothing good came from it. My son learned to be mean and nasty like his father and my daughter learned to be a victim. As adults both children have gotten therapy to help them overcome these problems and they both hate their father. I divorced the jerk 5 years ago when the kids were 17 and 19 and they both say that they wished that I had divorced him years earlier. Both children feel like he ruined their childhood and I let him by staying with him. Like I said, nothing good will come out of staying. Four years after my divorce and age 42 I have a wonderful relationship with a very warm and loving man. That is the type of relationship that my children should have been raised in. I wasted 18 years of mine and my childrens lives by sacraficing everything for the relationship. It's not worth the price.
2006-11-28 18:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its as simple as this, like how we apply it to everyday lives... if it is doing u any good, then stick by it, if it is NOT causing any good, then eliminate them out of ur life. Its like when u r on a job, and u were so desperate, u hanged on to it even when it is exposing u to many health hazard. Is it worth it? thats the ultimate questions. Being a battered wife, would u rather lose ur self confidence and live life scared just to stay married? if that is the case, lets teach our children NOT to get maried after all. Life is short; its meant to be enjoyed. we cannot go on living a life we dont really like. when the time comes and we are old and know much better, it would be terribly sad to think like "I should had... dont this, say that, etc etc etc.."
2006-11-28 18:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If one partner abuses the other than there is no relationship to sacrifice for. Relationships are built on love, trust, respect, friendship and cooperation. None of those are present if your husband is beating you. For the sake of everyone involved, leave now and never look back unless it is to keep from making the same mistakes.
2006-11-28 19:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one sacrifices everything he/she will be no more to see the relationship?
If two people want to save their relationship they both need to adjust to each other and understand each other.. this requires flexibility for adjustment and not total sacrifice...
2006-11-28 19:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah!, marriage life is full of sacrifices without them you will never achieve what plans you have with your own spouse.To keep it longer and last forever, sacrifice everything to maintain harmony in your home.
2006-11-28 18:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. He just wants power I just go out of a abuseive relationship it anit worth I went through it all threats, hits,
threating to kill me if I dont come back everything and I still cant get rid of him. Its not worth it get out why you still can.
2006-11-28 18:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by hclover21 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i think that i have done every possible to save my relationship because we live with each other so i think that it is not easy to break our relation i kissed him and embraced in to my arm .
2006-11-28 20:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by ganesh p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BetteBoop has the BEST answer due to her lifes experience... Sorry you had to go through that...
2006-11-28 18:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋