I'm getting proposals pls help me
2006-11-28 18:17:14 · 8 answers · asked by Pluto2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the best thing you can do is to decide who you want to marry and forget those "arrangements".. It's called free will ...exercise it!
2006-11-28 18:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hopefully your parents, prospected fiance, and their parents and you of course will take the necessary time to get to know each other... Dont rush into the marriage itself..
questions to ponder
How does he feel about his mother
What would he ask a suiter who came for his sister
Ask his sister, aunt, what is his crowning asset or worst asset.
Where he went to school, how far did he go in school, ie: college, some college, graduated etc
How is he set financially, good job, does he have a home yet, or are you going to live with his parents. How does he spend his money, does he have a savings.
Is he in debt to any one now? How long can it take to pay off.
How does he feel about starting a family, soon, or wait
What is is religious point of view (if different from yours)
and if different, how does he plan on dealing with the religious upbringing of your children
Is he active or sedentary.. Is he healthy, have any genetic diseases in family...
Ask his friends or co workers how he is in public
Is he a flirt, ladies man, or proper gentleman
How does he feel about women, equal, or not equal but somewhat sharing in lifes situations..
will he expect you to work, full time, part time, stay at home, and if he wants you at home, will he allow you to pursue hobbies outside the house.
erm.. I could go on.. but these will give you a head start
2006-11-28 18:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mintee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, his way of communication, how he interacts with you, your younger sister, your parents, his own parents and siblings, his dress sense, how presentable he is, are the only things that we can access in a short period. You may ask some probing but open-ended questions though with a big smile to know more about his nature and intellect such as what kind of future do you envision for yourself, what if I am not as good as you would like me to be, what is your idea of ideal wife and ideal married life. Questions like these should set him talking and revealing more about his real nature. Do not make it an interview session though or he will be on his guard and you will never get to know the truth. Ask them casually, in the manner of talking. Be ready to be honest when he asks similar questions.
2016-05-23 01:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST FIND OUT WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE, AND THEN SEE IF WHAT YOU WANT MATCHES WITH WHAT HE WANTS. YOU DONT WANT HIM TO HAVE THE SAME PERSONALITY, BUT SAME GOALS, AND MORALS. THINGS THAT MATTER IN THE LONG RUN, ARE NOT WHETHER HE WILL BE GOOD LOOKING, BUT WILL HE BE RESPECTFUL, AND UNDERSTANDING OF YOU. IS HE CARING, AND AFFECTIONATE. FIRST FIND OUT WHAT YOU WANT IN A LIFE PARTNER, THEN FIND OUT IF HE HAS THOSE QUALITIES. REMEMBER, NOT EVERYONE NEEDS THE SAME QUALITIES. MAKE SURE YOU BOTH WANT SIMILARE LIFESTYLES. SOME PEOPLE ARE OKAY LIVING DAY TO DAY, OTHERS WANT MONEY IN THE BANK. SOME PEOPLE CAN LIVE IN A DIRTY HOUSE, OTHERS ARE SUFFOCATED BY A DIRTY HOUSE. FIND OUT WHAT DRIVES HIM CRAZY, AND SEE IF YOU HAVE THOSE CHARACTERISTICS, AND VICE VERSA.
DON'T BE SCARED TO MAKE THIS AN INTERVIEW. THIS IS A "LIFE" PARTNER YOUR ARE LOOKING FOR. NOT A RANDOM DATE. WHAT YOU NEED TODAY, IS NOT WHAT YOU NEED WHEN YOU ARE 65, AND OLD. MY HUSBAND SAT THROUGH 16 HOURS OF CHILDBIRTH WITH ME, SAW ME AT MY WEAKEST POINT, AND ALL MY PIONTS...IF HE CAN HELP ME RECOVER FROM THAT, AND STILL BE AT MY SIDE. THEN HE CAN BE THERE WHEN I AM 99, AND PEEING ON MYSELF.
2006-11-28 18:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Rupi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is kind to you, your family, and his. He has excellent manners. He treats you like a lady. He likes and respects your family. He will take good financial and spiritual care of you. He likes being with you. His family likes you and thinks you are good for their son. Both families like each other.
2006-11-28 18:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's arranged, I don't think you have a choice
2006-11-28 19:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most important: the one who loves u for whoever u r.
second most important: his ability and responsibility to care and provide for a family.
thrid most important: he is god fearing.
the rest are not as important as these....
2006-11-28 18:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no
2006-11-28 18:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by trynshockme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋