my ex broke up with me about 9 months ago and i still have feelings for him. recently he has come back into my life 'as a friend' he said. he said nothing has changed in my life since he last seen me. he is trying to get me to get another job and he is emailing me all these jobs to apply for and sending me his resume to use as a template and then he wants me to sent it back to him to review. he also called me three times at work and send me faxes. the first phone call was to see if i got to work safely as i had a car accident and had to get the train. my question is why would he go to so much trouble to help me? is this a normal thing that friends do for each other to this extent thjat he has gone to? he did tell me not to get the wrong idea but to me his actions show otherwise. is he wanting me to change for us to get back together??
what should i say to him???or how to handle this??
2006-11-28 18:11:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by helping you it might make him feel usefull.
And for him to watch you you succeed gives him gratification that you are worth his efforts.
If he says "just friends" then you act and think like your "just friends". When it comes to relationships guys are usually in the present moment. They dont really think of the future.... Sure with money or business, or friends men can think of the future, but with women guys are clueless.
Let him help you, take his advice, and find that terrific job that makes you happy.
2006-11-28 18:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
May be he had a bitter experience with someone else after he broke with you and he may have realized the true value of your relationship...
So it is possible that he is trying to recover himself from the blow he may have recieved..
But he seems to be your best friend and all his acts tell that either he is back or he wants to be back..
There is no need to just accept him instantly but you may like to discuss the reasons for which he broke with you and see if he has realized that there was some mistake from his side.. if you think that he has realized then there is absolutely nothing wrong to go ahead...
2006-11-28 19:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-29 22:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion s that he still does have feelings for you. If his "friend interest" is hurting you, simply admit while you appreciate his help, that you have feelings for him and really don't want a friendship because you have "romantic" feelings.
I had a friend like that, it turned out he wanted to be with me again and was too chicken to admit it since he was afraid I would get revenge about how he took off. I put a stop to it quickly and am now married to a man who KNOWS what he wants.
best of luck to you.
2006-11-28 18:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If someone told me not to get the wrong idea, then I wouldn't get the wrong idea. He just wants to be friends. Good friends, obviously, since he called to make sure you were all right after an accident. Any good friend would do that. That doesn't mean they want to be your lover.
2006-11-28 18:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by jare bare 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to get you back, and when and if he gets you back, he will probably brake up with you again. It's that golden rule..the grass is always greener on the other side. Maybe he wanted you to be more dramatic. You shouldnt call him, give him the cold shoulder, see how he reacts. Sounds like he knows he messed up, but its your call. Sounds like a wack job.
2006-11-28 18:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rupi G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's genuinely being kind to you. Sometimes people do things with no ulterior motives. What could be in it for him at this point? He said he just wants to be friends; maybe he's being sincere. It sounds like he might miss your friendship and he cares about your well being. Good luck.
2006-11-28 18:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me that he is behaving in exactly the way a good friend should behave. Don't read any more into it or you'll just get hurt. He's made it plain he only wants to be your friend so accept it.
2006-11-28 18:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Carolyn M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your ex is just that...an ex...he may feel bad about dumping you but he likes you as a person and wants to show you he can be nice..some guys like to have needy friends..they like doing things for other people.
If he starts to have serious feelings for you again...he will tell you...Until then the best thing you can do is show him you are still interesting to be with and fun to have around by DATING OTHER GUYS... just remember do not have sex with anyone. No man likes to know his wife was passed from guy to guy to guy
and if he feels others want to play with his toy...it will make him jealous and he will want to play with you himself.
2006-11-28 18:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank him for his help,but explain to him you need to find your own job. It sounds to me like he is attempting to control your life by his actions. That's not friendship...it's his way of making himself feel better about his life by making you feel inadequate in yours. Don't let him succeed in this!
2006-11-28 18:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋