How to heal from a mental/nervous breakdown?

Question

I just had the worst first semester ever as a freshman in a college. I'm experiencing a mental or nerovous breakdown because I can't tell my parents what I have done. I want to cry and I hate myself but I know I can do better next time. PLease help me, I feel terrible how do I move on. I feel like I am being to hard on myself....falling apart please help.

Answer 1

It is not uncommon for students in their first term at college to find they can't cope with the pressure from studies, managing finances, being away from home etc. You are not alone and it is something that the colleges and universities are well used to dealing with. You should go along to a college counsellor - advising and assisting students is what they are paid for. Believe me, they will have heard every story, every confession under the sun and nothing will shock them.

The fact that hate yourself and want to cry sounds like you are very stressed and /or depressed and you really must address this before it takes a firmer grip and begins to affect your studies.

Whatever you have done, it is not the end of the world and in the great scheme of things is probably not that big a deal. Go and talk to someone and then get your studies and your life back on track.

Answer 2

Calm down first of all, turn on smooth listening instrumental music, this is no joke, even while you are sleeping so your brain activity is calm, and music is used for this therapy all over the world. Play classical with a cheerful violins. This works for heart patients as well as Cancer patients too. And especially a nervous disorder. Rest close your eyes and tell yourself this is not the end of the world. Your parents love you or you would not be in College, they have done things wrong in their life as a young person and I am sure they will realize that. It will all depend on how you take responsibility for this, don't be hyper about it just calm down and look at the situation and tell them you let yourself down first and you know that they know that because they are good parents and that they only want the best for you and that you now know that you must try harder and live up to that expectation as we all do. The expectation in G-D's universe is to be good to ourselves and others and don't let the negative take over.

Answer 3

First, to the best of my understanding, there really isn't such a thing as a "nervous breakdown". There are "psychotic breakdowns" in which people go genuinely mentally ill, but that's not what you're going through.

You're probably more emotionally exhausted and/or stressed out to the point of extreme anxiety.

It is difficult to help someone from afar, but I think first you need to allow yourself to have as many good cries as you need to.

Next, you need to tell yourself that what's done is done, so there's no point even thinking about it at this point. If you know you can and will do better next time then you just have to decide to do that and consider the first semester a loss. Most people mess up at one time or another in life. This was your mess-up.

Try, though, not to go through this alone. I don't know your parents, but I have a daughter in college. I know that I would not want my daughter going through an awful time that was made worse by her not being able to talk to me about it. Tell your parents what you said in your question. Let them know you're sick about it and feel like you're going through a breakdown over it. If they are understanding and supportive you'll have that much from them. Even if they get angry, though, at least you won't be living with this secret.

Consider talking with an advisor and/or a counselor about the situation. See if they have some advice or perspective or can otherwise be at all helpful.

Think about what made you mess up last semester and do something about that so it won't happen again. If you've lost credits that will have to be made up later, then you just plan to make them up later. If you didn't study because you were socializing then you know what that answer is. If, on the other hand, there was something on your mind or about the situation at school that made concentrating on the work difficult (high stress levels make high cortisol levels, which make concentrating impossible) then try to figure out what was making you unhappy or stressed out.

There is nothing like just being honest about a situation, no matter how much you hate to tell people some things. If you can get in the habit of being honest with your parents it will make you feel like a grown-up, which, in itself, will help you feel better. I wish I could offer you more advice, but I can't think of any....

Just whatever you do, give your parents credit for being able to understand some things or at least deal with some mess-ups on your part. I don't know them, but most normal, loving, parents do not want their son or daughter to go through something alone and not able to just talk about it. (Sure, you may have some lecturing to listen to for a little while; but, you know, if they know how upset you are they may not lecture at all.)

One final note: Sometimes kids start college a year earlier than they're ready for. They often benefit by waiting that one year, as long as they really do go the following year. Maybe you started a little earlier than was right for you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Astrologers can see mental problems in a horoscope, which are related mostly to the Moon's sign and position, but to some extent Mercury and the Sun sign. In general, however, here are some signs that are a bit less stable: Aquarius -- more of them are in mental hospitals than any other sign. Sometimes we worry that Aquarians will try suicide, from deep depression over their lives, feeling trapped by something. Aries -- they lose their heads at the oddest times. Sudden temper tantrums, screaming over nothing, throwing things, this kind of behavior often sends them to the psychiatrist's couch. Gemini -- extreme nervousness. Virgo -- compulsions and fears. Cancerians may retreat from the world from time to time, but remember they can almost always resolve their melancholy and they are resilient.

Answer 5

One day at a time hon. It may seem like the worst thing ever, but all you can do is set your personal goals(reasonable) and try your best to reach them the next time.
Just be honest with your parents, they may come down on you a little, but you are an adult now and you have to take the consequences. Good luck!

Answer 6

breathe in and out. take a nice shower right now and spend some time in the shower meditating and trying to relax. everything will be all right. dont worry

Answer 7

go exert yourself physically till your ready to drop. Then take a long hot shower and drink something hot. (masterbation helps too) endorphines