My husband is in the army and lives in another state. Hi sister does drugs and he said not to let her in my house to see our 5 month old daughter. what do i do if she comes? what do i tell her? i feel like i'm in a really awkward position. help!
2006-11-28 18:01:36 · 14 answers · asked by abc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have the decency to tell her the truth. If she gives you a hard time tell her to get in touch with her brother. It may be awkward for you...but it can be worse to let her take advantage of your generosity.
2006-11-28 18:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you live in post housing? if so, call the chaplain. explain the situation....you husband would better know his sisters behavior and you should trust that he is telling you the truth. If she continually harasses you and will NOT leave, you can call the MPs and have her removed, the army doesn't take kindly to outsiders bothering residents.
if you live off post and she shows up, just let her knock, ignore her, or grab up your baby and head out the door and tell her you were just leaving and you will talk to her later.
You should at all costs NOT let her see your baby, if she is a druggie who knows what kind of behavior she will express in front of the two of you.
good luck to you and I hope she leaves you alone.
2006-11-29 02:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby won't "catch' anything. Just because the sister is on drugs now, does not necessarily mean that she will always be! Some support from family might help a bit!! Does she steal?? If this is your husbands concern...I understand, just watch her!! But I'd let her see her niece. Sounds like your hubby has other issues with her. Ahhhh, family.
2006-11-29 02:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sunny: Look at it this way. Your husband's sister is a drug user ! There is only one reason she would even, darken your doorway ... DRUGS !!! She needs $ for drugs and she would be using the child as an excuse to gain access to your home where $ or goods can be gained. Confront her and tell flat out " My husband told me to tell you that you are not welcome in our home." Be firm and abrupt about it! After you had your say, Slam the door, lock it and walk away from it.
2006-11-29 02:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would repect your husbands wishes. I would think it would also depend on what drugs she is doing. Is she just doing a little Mary Jane now and then? Or is she a daily user?This isn't akward..if she comes over just grab your keys/baby and purse and say thanks for stopping by but I have to go and drive around the block.
Then you can avoid hurting her feelings and your not lying because you do have to go.Or just don't answer the door.
2006-11-29 02:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget what he says, do what should be done as a mother of a 5 month old--keep the dope head away from your child. Shouldn't be any akwardness to it. Make up something or how about just not answering the door? Not the law yet that you have to answer a knock or door bell.
2006-11-29 02:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you shouldn't let his sister come in your house, to avoid conflicts with your husband. You should meet his sister at a restaurant, on the condition that she is clean on that day and a few days before.
2006-11-29 02:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by joruaishiteru 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
has ur husband had reason to not allow her around? just because someone does drugs doesnt make them a bad perosn-- it would think as long as she isnt doped up, and there arent any solid reasons to allow her into ur house or around ur children- to consider her visiting
expecially now that christmas is around the corner.... you never know what you have until u loose it.... christmas is about family!!
i would talk to ur husband first though---- to advoid conflict
2006-11-29 02:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
someone I know had to tell her own sister that she was not welcome in the house. She told her that her first responsibility was to her children and she couldn't have alcoholics and druggies around the kids...the sister was shocked and hurt and screamed but to no avail..this person told her sister that if she was sober and no drugs she could see them for an hour....and that is how they handled it.
2006-11-29 02:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont let her around but be kind honest and firm in the matter drugs around kids is grounds to have them taken in any state remember that.
2006-11-29 02:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by tainted_soul6000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋