Throughout my childhood I have lived with an abusive psychotic father and mother who decided to have a large "family" of 8 which was a reenactment of the father's childhood. His childhood was dirt poor, a large number of brothers and sisters who were suposedly brought up in the christian faith and who later turned out to be a bunch of munipulating, coning welfare cases. The father who's name is Phillip Collin Galey, was a drunk who obsessed over control, and power he was most munipulative and believed the landlord was the devil and and so he made me and my brothers and sisters live out of vehicles parked on other peoples property. The mothers name is Terry Evon Porter. I remember times as a young child on up to the age of 16 being locked in a metal dairy box out in the woods for hours as he would stand over it forcing me in saying, Now you understand what happens when people defy the lords helper. So later on I disowned the whole and see a psychologist. how do i deal with it or cope?
2006-11-28 18:00:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There are many different types of therapies that can help with PTSD - talk therapy is probably the best for this particular situation. You will have a great deal of anger, fear and distress locked away inside you which, I am sure, is impacting on your everyday life, work, relationships etc. You must talk all this through with a professional counsellor and work on developing coping strategies that will help you examine the memories in a calm, detached way and eventually allow you to put them away and get on with your life.
I wish you all the very best of luck.
2006-11-28 18:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Joseph F. I don't know if it is at all comforting for you to know that you are far from alone when it comes to living through this kind of childhood. Its good that you put their names on here. I suspect what may help you is for you to know that other people know how these people treated you. There's nothing worse than feeling like someone has done something awful to you and just gotten away with it. Its very sensible of you to see a psychologist. It is possible for people to get past their childhoods and build a life for themselves that is what a life ought to be. These days there is more understanding than ever before about PTSD. I think, too, if you can get so you have the kind of life that gives you some genuinely happy times some of the nice memories you make now can help push away some of the bad ones, so you won't notice them as much. Try not to let the bad things in your childhood (or the people who created them) take more away from you than they already have. Try to remember that you are still the same person. You made it through some rough times, but you're still you; and now you can build the life you deserve. Try to remember, too, that so much child abuse is the result of ignorance or mental illness; and try to forgive your parents. They couldn't help it if they were ignorant or mentally ill. Chances are if you can talk to the psychologist about all the little things and big things you've felt emotionally over a period of time you'll be able to get to the root of whatever it is that is causing your nightmares. Best wishes. Remember that you're a strong person and that no matter how bad it was there are people who have overcome childhoods that were even worse.
2016-03-13 00:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to 'own' it to the point where the memories become less threatening when it comes back. Your psychologist will teach you ways to overcome PSTD symptoms. But rest assured you will come throught your painful childhood with strength. You need to get the emotions out of your system, while working on your self esteem, eg, find things to do that you like or can enrich your spirit, a hobby. When you are able to cope when the memories flood you again and again, you will more 'space' to learn new techniques to help you in your interactions with people at work. You will learn listening techniques, check reality, say 'no' without sounding rude, etc...
You need to ask for affirmations. I'm giving you one here.
You are a worthy person! You have what it takes to make it, whether on your own or with the help of friends!
2006-11-28 18:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are dealing with it. One day at a time.
Remember that what happened to you is not your fault.
Each of us is responsible for our own conduct.
It is very sad what happened to you. Maybe by helping others you can salvage some good.
Keep talking about it. Dont hide it.
What more can I say? You have been very brave. Keep going. All the best
2006-11-28 18:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your psychologist say? I would say the first step is to try and forgive. Not for THEIR benefit, but for yours. I know from personal experience, that once you forgive, the anger goes away, and it's anger that is most detrimental to your mental AND physical health. As far as the stress disorder, time and counseling can help. Take care.
2006-11-28 18:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ptsd is real and nothing for you to be ashame of I also have this from a very bad child hood so in alot of ways i know where you come from.
the important thing is keep doing what you are now and getting help and talking you are on the road to recover. good luck to you and stay in couseloring.
2006-11-28 18:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋