If so, what was the result? If not, why not?
2006-11-28 17:57:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When I met my ex, she loved the fact that I rode a motorcycle, had long hair and played guitar in a rock band. After we got married, she did her best to change everything about me. I went along with it. Then, once she got the new house, the new furniture,the new car and my son, she kicked me to the curb and filed for divorce. If you can't be yourself in a relationship then something is terribly wrong and you better run for dear life.
2006-11-28 18:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by jare bare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes , 14 years ago I changed who I was for love and thought I was doing the right thing , went against all my moral upbringing and thought in the back of my mind that I could change her family who was a dysfunctional wreck, but instead all it did was drag me down to their level and made me miserable ,not to mention I ended up with some terrible addictions I never asked for in the first place, so don't ever go on the theory if you can't beat them join them, how ever things are looking better and today after 14 months I am clean and sober and have detached myself from that life style and family,although it is rough going through a seperation and a divorce it is the best thing I could have done and there are no regrets because out of all this I have learned some valuable lessons on life and gained a wonderfull 12 year old son. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-29 02:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did it once when I was 17 years old. The outcome was that it didn't work out because I kept changing and adapting myself to suit's someone's needs, and that was very very tiring.
It's like if he doesn't appreciate who you really are then he is a waste of time. For a second I thought it was love, but it really wasn't.
2006-11-29 02:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do that...because it's like living a lie...and sooner or later, you just can't stand being something you are not anymore.
I think most people put on their "best" behaviour or act when they meet someone...but if they try to be someone else when they realize that this person isn't satisfied with who you really are...even if that is something you just imagine, or whether in fact it's true...is really bad. It's bad for you, and for the other person if he stays with you...because one day he'll go HUH? Who are you? You lied to me...and it will be over.
Two people have to be themselves. If you have to put on a song and dance and act to win someone over...you're going to lose them some day...plain and simple or you will be trapped in a false relationship. You could even end up being the one to break THEIR heart when they realize you're a fake.
2006-11-29 02:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have changed what I used to do but not who I am really. She inspired me to want to better myself not only for her love but also for myself. I quit smoking and drinking she didn't like curse words so I did my best to stop saying them. To this day I cannot curse in front of a woman. It wasn't that I changed who I was just some of the things I was used to doing. All she did was make me want to be a better man and I still love her for it all to this day.
-NmD!
2006-11-29 02:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have but for the better.....my husband opened me up to a whole new world.....music, movies, and somewhat my way of thinking.....i lead a very sheltered life thanks to my mom....my husband opened my view of different things so in a way i changed and i am more like him in certian aspects.....it's working out fine....i enjoy being interested in the same things as him!
2006-11-29 02:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, my boyfriend tried to talk me into sex and basically told me there is no afterlife and that I should live for today. But I would not compromise my morals. I felt that if he truly loved me, he would accept or atleast respect my faith, too.
2006-11-29 02:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never. I think it's important for people to find someone who loves them for who they really are, not for who they seem to be.
2006-11-29 02:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I have...but if your gonna change for love you also most think if this changes would help you in the future...
2006-11-29 02:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Blem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I am true blue, take me the way I am or leave me, and when you go don't be disappointed when I don't cry.
2006-11-29 02:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋