My husband always complaints with my performance during our love making. He said that "I'm as cold as the stone" I'm only 29 years old but I don't know I really don't enjoy making love...
2006-11-28 17:54:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is difficult to get into something that you do not enjoy!
Try a vibe
2006-11-28 18:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, I have been there before. Is it something that you felt was a problem too, or is it only him who's feeling this? Either way, something is not being done right. Right? It could be your fault, it could be his, or it could be both, but that doesn't matter, what matters is that you open up the lines of communication and start working on this "problem" together. There are plenty of things that couples do to "spice things up" you just have to experiment to find out what works for you. You may decide that you need to do some work on your own feelings about sex if you are uncomfortable with certain things, but you should definitely let go of your inhibitions and go into the bedroom with an open mind. Try different positions, "toys", acting out a fantasy, and (if possible) places other than your bed or your bedroom. (My personal favorite new thing is:in the shower with the lights off)
2006-11-29 02:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband is the problem. Does he even know HOW to make love to you? Is it him that makes you uncomfortable or some other bad sexual experience you had that has turned you off sex altogether. If he's picking up cold he is probably right, but why is what you have to get to the bottom of.
If he just isn't doing the right things then tell him...frankly I think it's terrible when sex between two people is not good...it kills everything. But sounds like he is resenting you or is it that he just always puts you down like that?
As I said you have to figure out if it's you, him or both of you together.
2006-11-29 01:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem, however I'm 34. I went the the Dr. and he checked my hormone levels - they were below normal. (Have been for some time). I'm starting to go through menopause. I was put on male hormones to help increase the sex drive. (Just started them yesterday so I can tell you if they work or not.) -- Do you hurt during or after sex? If so this could be part of the problem, see your DR right away, as it could be a problem that is easily fixed. (No one wants sex when it hurts to do it.) Are you dry during sex? There are creams and oral meds that can be taken to help with this problem. Are you still in love with him and still attracted to him? If not then, go to councilling. These are the usual reasons why women lose interest in sex. So if its none of the above, I don't know.
2006-11-29 02:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by cbgiggles2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you on birth-control pills or medication? That may be the reason for your decreased sex drive. I have heard of a tea called "Horny Goat Weed" lol I know its a funny name, but I heard it can help a lot. I'm sure you can find it at a health food store, if my sex drive goes down, I will totally try it. Maybe even if it doesn't go down, just to try it.
2006-11-29 02:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should come with a manual. Most people THINK they are doing it right by what they see in porn or whatnot...often they aren't even coming close to the mark...plus if some of the things your partner wants to do don't do it for you, (ie anal sex, oral sex, certain positions or sex play etc.) and you are doing it just to please them...then you won't enjoy it.
Sex is just sex to men, but a whole lot more to women...so teach him what to do because believe me, some never figure it out or even care to bother.
2006-11-29 10:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a porn DVD or VCD, together with your husband. Be prepared to do it during the show, your sex urge will be there.
2006-11-29 07:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take belly dancing classes. I found that the experience helped me to enjoy my oun body and the movements were kinda freeing. I found that it was ok to be sexy and that helped me in all area of my life. Good Luck
2006-11-29 02:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Recovery Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't enjoy it he might not be good at it. Tell him what you like , since he can't seem to figure it out, and maybe start pleasuring yourself right before sex.
2006-11-29 02:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on both parties and not one party. Talk to your husband about this and hope both of you can work out something
2006-11-29 06:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋