I just got married about a month ago. My new husband has not had sex with me once yet. I see him less now then I did before we were married. He works 12 hour shifts but also has a lot of days off. He is 11 years older than me and I am only 21. I feel like I have made a big mistake. Is it possible to be this depressed about being married so soon? What can I do??
2006-11-28 17:41:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all make mistakes. You would have been wise to of waited to see the "real" him. He has someone to cook his meals, wash his clothes and maintain a clean home for him. He is plainly, a workaholic - plain and simple. He is married to his job. You were 21 and he, 32 ... this is an old trick some guys use to snare a wife. A woman his age would have caught on to the slave-to-his-job and never would have married him. He went after the younger - more naive girls - YOU. Learn from this experience and tell him to "down-size" on the working hours or you are gone !!! If he doesn't - then - leave him. Good luck to you !!!
2006-11-28 17:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. What kind of understanding did you have prior to marriage? Was this the way it was while you were dating? Perhaps you should tell hubby that he is REQUIRED to bring sex into the relationship as part of the contract. If he refuses and you think this has been a mistake then get an annulment. No sex equals an easy annulment. Bet you didn't date long. Bet you were infatuated with the fact that an older man found you to be attractive and marriage material. But he knows he is at a different level of life with far more experience than you.
2006-11-29 01:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife was also 8 year's small than me, she was also got frustrated initially. wanted to do sex multiple times a day,i was not having that much desire,but as per wish i did what all she was looking for. I don't think there is any issue. May be the same guy will be good husband for rest of your life. One more thing ,don't take decision too early, otherwise you will keep on chnaging the husband, respect and understanding comes with respect to time, as well love will also appear with respect to time. Communicate honestly with respect and love, i don;t think you will further feel depressed.
2006-11-29 02:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by yjph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels that he has the rest of his life to have sex with you so why bother now... That is extremely selfish... Imagine how long you'd have to wait for sex after a year or so of marriage. Talk to him... if nothing changes then I'd say you better leave him... Good Luck sweety!
2006-11-29 02:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep if i don't get sex once a day i'm a bit pissed. talk to him and tell him how you feel don't let this go on for years and years you'd rather find out your mistake now than later
2006-11-29 01:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by omissy2005 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does he do on his days off?? Talk to him. and if he doesn't change them leave him.
2006-11-29 01:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋