so when i casually asked my guy what body features are attractive to him and what i don't have that he likes, he made the remark that "not every girl can have nice "c" breasts" (but i'm kinda close... i'm a "b"). should i go out of my way to take breast enhancement pills for him (with or without him knowing about it) so that i have one more thing in his favor? should i make the extra effort to make him happier than he is. (side note: to me, it appears to obviously not be a big deal to him, cuz we're obviously still together and married, but should i do it as an extra show of my love for him?)
2006-11-28 17:23:43 · 22 answers · asked by Katie78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i just want you all to know as an extra side note: he didn't say he wanted me to or that i wasn't good enough now, i'm just asking on my own, without him knowing about my wonderings yet....
2006-11-28 17:29:20 · update #1
NO ... he loves you just the way you are .... if you start changing your appearance and your body shape you'll no longer be the You that You are .... just be thankful that you have his heart and enjoy what you have
2006-11-28 17:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you asked him the question, I guess that means he can answer honestly, but geez, couldn't he have said it in a nicer way. Well, I don't see how you having a cup size larger breasts are going to make him a happier man. He should love you the way you are. You did say that you're married, so obviously he had to accept it before, so I wouldn't change now for him. If anything, do it for yourself, it's your body. If it helps you feel more confident or attractive, than who is to tell you not to. But I would be sure that's the reason, otherwise, what if you do this for him, but it doesn't end there. What if brings up other things, then you'll keep changing for him. You can't make someone else truly happy in a relationship unless you too are happy with yourself.
2006-11-28 17:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you should NEVER change yourself for someone else husband or not. If your happy with your size "B" breast then that's the way you should stay. And second if your going to get a breast enhancement then you need to go to a Dr. and do it the old fashioned way. I've known women that have tried the pills, creams, sprays and herbs and all wasted their money, and I'm sure you know those pills and things aren't cheap.
2006-11-28 17:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right, not every girl has a "c", but he got with you anyways. He didn't get with you for your breast size. You asked him a question and he honestly answered it. You don't fix something when its not broke. And you dont get any type of enhancements to please someone else. If you do get enhancements it should be to make you happy. Obviously he loves you just the way you are, he married you.
2006-11-28 17:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by honeydoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do anything to your body, do it for yourself not for anyone else. You can wear clothing that enhance your breast size,if that is what you want. Just wear a bra size in the cup.......for instance if you wear a 36c........try a 34c. Also the bras that are half bras are even more enhancing. Try those things first. Go to a specialty store. They are really good at helping you. Don't be shy. Tell them exactly what you are looking for. I know Victoria's Secrets are great at helping you out.....been there and done that. Good Luck
2006-11-28 17:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to. Trust me he loves you for you if he's still there. I'm sure that size b can do the same thing for him a size c could and thats all that matters. Just try to turn those b's into c's every once in a while. They have some great padded teddies on victoriassecret.com.
2006-11-28 17:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he said seems to really bother you. are you sure you're not just making excuses (not trying to offend). is it really an extra show of your love? If you really want to, than do it. But you should tell him, maybe he won't like the idea.
2006-11-28 17:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Little Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy really love you he will love you with a a,b,c,or d i mean looks are not every thing and a woman should never change any thing about her or her body for a man god made you that way for one reason and if he don't like it he is not good for you so don't change any thing i am sour you are beautiful
2006-11-28 17:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself bec he loves u and already accepted u for who u r. sometimes, we thought if we change whichever part of us comforming to what our partner wants, he can love us better. but hell, its not always the case. he might even like it less...
in a recent poll study of focus groups, it was found out that what we say we really wanted, when presented to us, we dont really choose them.
so stay who u r bec ur man already love what he has got.
2006-11-28 18:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever, ever do anything for someone who wants to change you. Especially over something as insignificant as breast size.
2006-11-28 17:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋