I have been married 4 year 1/2 by next year will complete 5 year of our marriage. I have never had sex with my husband cause he have no confident in him self and mostly of all no experience. He wants me to be the leader but I don't want to be. Should I just leave it that way or Pray to god for him to help me out? I love him dearly I can't live without him even though we have never had real sex (Mostly Oral). I am only desperate to know cause had always been trying to do something new but I end up fail or frustrated cause I am doing it all alone he only have time for football & work. But when we go somewhere he becomes different person very romantic person but when we are back home he become like cool hearted person why is it. When I come up & talk to him about it he listens and understand but next day he forgets all about it. I want him to read the books that really help us but he wouldn’t he would always fine excuse that the English is very hard for him.
2006-11-28 17:16:28 · 7 answers · asked by love_rescue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok........5 years is enough. I am not an advocate of porn movies but I think this could help motivate him. Tell him you like to try different things. Sure oral is great but there are so many things that can make sex fun. Ask him if he had fun when he was a kid....just playing. Tell him you would like to play. Role playing can be very exciting. When you are in your bedroom. That is your toy room....anything goes as long as both agree and no one gets hurt. Man, there are just too many things that you can do for fun. It is all make believe when you let your imagination go. You may need to be the one to start it all but give it all you have. EXPERIMENT, EXPERIMENT........JUST HAVE FUN
2006-11-28 17:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has some serious, deep emotional issues that are leading him to steer clear of sex. You need to really look into his background and childhood to get a clearer idea as to what is holding him back.
It is not normal for someone to avoid sex for as long as he has with his own wife out of a pure lack of confidence. Maybe he had some trauma as a child he needs to work through, or was given very harsh forboding messages about sex growing up?
Do everything you can to try and dig as deep as possible and understand what his issues are. Enlist a professional who speaks his language if need be. You should not have to suffer through a sexless marriage. Let him know, as gently but firm as possible, that if he wants this marriage to work as much as you, he will need to take this as seriosuly as you do.
2006-11-29 01:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not have anything to do with me for the first 4 hours I would have had the marriage annulled.
This is not normal or human.
I would not marry if there was nothing going on in the bedroom.
2006-11-29 01:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both have serious issues. almost 5 yrs of marriage and you have never had sex? this has to be a joke or we have some real nut jobs in this world.
2006-11-29 01:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years without sex?! You poor girl! I suggest going to counsling and find out the real problem behind it.It's not going to work itself out if it already hasn't.
2006-11-29 01:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where he from?if he wants you to be the leader do so may be he will be interested and will turn him on.
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2006-11-29 01:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by sndn_03 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋