I went out with my husband and his friends the other night for some drinks at a local hangout. We all got pretty tipsy. I guess I was flirting pretty bad with one of his friends. I thought I was consoling his friend about his breakup with his girlfriend. His friend was feeling unattractive and lonely, so I was telling him that he's a good looking guy and I held his hand and listened attentively while he was telling me about the breakup.
The flirting got worse the more we drank. Nothing bad happened, but it left some weirdness in the air, especially because it was me doing all the flirting. My husband was upset after we got home that night, but he is kind of laughing it off now.
I don't want his friendship with this guy to go sour and I don't want my husband to think I'd stray from him. Other than apologising and never putting myself in that situation again, is there something else I should do or say to help things? or do I just let things be and hope it all goes away with time?
2006-11-28 17:11:54 · 22 answers · asked by MsLongBeach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ms: Your husband was in attendance with you while you were performing; so, you have this base covered. Now; in case your husband's friend misinterprets your gestures, tell him (friend), that you were drunk and out of line that night. Above all; don't be alone with him [friend] , as he may think that you have other interests rather, than your husband on your mind. (This is what a lot of guys think when a woman is nice to them !) Good luck to you !!!
2006-11-28 17:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. You've explained you were having some harmelss fun and so was the target of your flirting. Your husband seems to have accepted it now that he is sober.
Yeah, it was kind of a naughty thing to do, but everyone needs to flirt once in a while. It's a feel good for all involved in my opinon.
Your husband must feel pretty darned good that he has a woman other ment want, and you must feel pretty good that he flirted back so you know other men want you. As long as this is as far as it goes, it's a good thing.
2006-11-29 01:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is pretty obvious that you were seeking attention too and getting it in return. We all do stupid things if we drink too much. Too bad we can't get reruns to see what we looked like at the time.......that would really show us what idiots we can be at times. I would just let it lay. Be thankful your husband is laughing it off now. Otherwise, you would be crying on his buddy's shoulder.......who knows where that would lead. Sure it could not be very good in the long run. Chalk it up as an experience. We all think we are sexier that we really are when we are drunk. Let it chill, sister.
2006-11-29 01:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like things are fine. Just continue to let your husband know that he's your number one guy. If you continue apologizing, it'll seem like maybe there IS something to apologize about. Don't raise any more suspicion, laugh it off like your husband did. Grab him tight and be thankful he as great as he is!
Good luck!
2006-11-29 01:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything goes away after time and this will to your husband know that you had some drinks and the things you may have said your did you did not mean so all you can do i say your sorry and let it start to go away and i know that yall will lol in time
2006-11-29 01:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" Well, if you are sincere, you need to reconnect with your husband by over committing to him in the bedroom and then with your husband with you while you are holding your husbands hand and your arm around your husband go and apopologize to you 'friend' because I think i just answered a question about this exact same thing ,only from the point of view of the 'poor' other fella. Good luck you ol flirt...stay outta the bar."
2006-11-29 01:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
laugh at yourself, and leave it alone, if it gets brought up again, just keep laughing it off, it'll pass if you leave it alone. if not, create some other distraction (hint hint) for your husband's entertainment. you may want to make sure you don't drink too much next time around this guy, i mean, HOLDING HANDS? if the situation were reversed and your husband was consoling one of your girlfriends, i think your reaction would have been more than just joking around and teasing about it. sooo....just play it off and don't let it happen again.
2006-11-29 01:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As I say to a lot of people flirting is a very bad habit you best learn how to stop it now before it gets you into more trouble .Holding someone elses hand and telling them they are handsome what do you think he is thinking ? I can tell you but I guess you are smart enough to know that answer !!
2006-11-29 01:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you haven't done so already, apologize to your husband and assure him it won't happen ever again. As far as the friend is concerned, leave it be for now.
2006-11-29 01:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands good friend told me that he had a sex dream about me and his brother told me he wished he would have married me. Talk to your husband and let him know that it was nothing and you are still on his side. Your husband will love the admiration that his friend has for you.
2006-11-29 01:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tonne B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋