2006-11-28 17:10:37 · 19 answers · asked by matrimony x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reality is that you can never be fully prepared for marriage. It's one of those situations where you can try to prepare, but you won't fully understand it until you're in it.
What helped me and my husband at least try to prepare was premarital counseling. This allowed us to discuss important matters...everything from finances to children and more. And having a sort of "mediator" there allowed us to get into topic we didn't even think to talk about on our own. It was tremendously helpful...and it's something I'd recommend to any couple contemplating marriage.
2006-11-28 17:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mary K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, anti-marriage people irritate me.
If you are in the right relationship, preparation isn't really necessary, I don't think.
That said, that may just be me. :)
I'm not sure there's a quick answer to this question, but I think it's best to get to know the person as well as you can. Figure out what kind of arguer the person is. If they argue unfairly, you know that's something you'll have to work on together.
Mostly. it's about knowing the other person, knowing yourself, and not kidding yourself into thinking marriage or long-term relationships are work-free. People change, and you have to accept almost anything that could come at you during your marriage including infidelity.
So, in short, do a lot of reading, asking questions, and talking first.
2006-11-28 17:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage creates all kinds of anxiety. This is my second marriage and nerves are all part of it. Prepare yourself by imagining your life without you potential partner in it. How does that really feel? How would you feel to see that person marry someone else? It's a huge change, unless you have already been living together. My second husband and I had not lived together prior to our marriage, so there were things to work on. Marriage is what you make it. Try and sit by yourself and really examine what exactly it is that is causing the most need to mentally prepare and then work on that. Good luck to you both.
2006-11-28 17:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to really get to know the person, I would suggest living with her/him for at least 2 years in order to get a good idea of all the personality traits that come along with the person. But keep in mind that no body is perfect and all couples will have their moments. This idea is important especially after marriage, because arguments are unavoidable. The more flexible you are with accepting your mate's unique traits, the better. But this is a two way street.
The best way to prepare your self for marriage is to practice your responses to irritating or stressful situations. These will pop up all the time in marriage and your ability to handle them with a high emotional intelligence will be the key. I suggest talking to the person that may be involved in these situations with a "soft voice" and without any exaggeration. Pay attention to other peoples perceptions.
Marriage is a lot of work, but when you love someone, it is the greatest feeling in the world. Dont be afraid of it, just get to know it a little.
2006-11-28 17:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try to lose the rosy happy couple in wedded bliss picture that looks like the end of every romantic movie you've ever seen. Realize that your fiance is a person with flaws, annoying quirks and habits that will drive you crazy. Accept that a lot of married life is day to day crap like whining kids and paying the mortgage and arguing about whose turn it was to do the laundry. This will help prepare you for the disillusionment when you realize that being married isn't anything like "playing house." That's not to say that being married can't be great, you just have to be willing to work to keep the relationship strong.
2016-03-13 00:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be prepare for 1 year after you marriage...coz first year is cool after that u will find lods of mistakes in each other...so don't worry till next one year..go with the flow...
2006-11-28 20:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by sureshflourish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing much my dear... Just go in with an open mind and a OPEN heart. Life guides you automatically and just remember that as any tool works well only when taken care of, so also any relationship works when you nurture it lovingly.
2006-11-28 19:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by mana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I didn't do, go to a pastor for marriage counseling. This will explore all areas of how you both feel about money, children, sex, ect......
Get a clear picture before its too late!
2006-11-28 17:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can not prepare for marriage cause everything is unexpected but you can be unselfish and learn to share,considerate about the other person fellings not all about you.
2006-11-28 17:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by The D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to being wrong about everything.
Don't have sex until the honeymoon.
Go to Yahoo Answers every day and answer the stupidest questions you can find.
2006-11-28 17:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋