Hi, I am 19 and I have trouble with men. I like older men and am also sober for 3 years so don't like young men who drink and do drugs. I am mature for my age, work full time and think I am smart.
I have trouble with relationships. It is hard for me to commit to somebody. I crave for them to tell me they love me. I like to hurt men and make them feel bad. I cheat on them and play mind games. It depresses me that I can't have a normal relationship. My best friend thinks it's because I had a very dysfunctional and abusive relationship with my father when I was a child and raped twice.
I like two different men a lot. I know they like me a lot but I have cheated on them with eachother and told them. I know I can have them both any time I want, dont tell me I cant. I am told Im very beautiful. For some sick reason I like hurting them. I want to hurt them more but I want them to tell me they love me too. I know it is so perverse and demented don't bother telling me that. Whats wrong?
2006-11-28 17:06:37 · 8 answers · asked by catanomicsunset 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What's wrong? You're a bytch, that's what's wrong. You don't have to be Dr Phil to figure that out...
2006-11-28 17:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost, women like you scare me. I will try very, very hard to avoid you.
That being said, I do about the same thing. I have always been pushed off to the side, and my defense is to shove people away. I do so in a very hostile manner. I wouldn't say that I enjoy it, but it gives me a satisfaction knowing that I abandoned them before that had a chance to hurt me.
That is the short version of it. I would advise that you seek therapy before you destroy your life. And remember, what happened to you in your past, may or may not happen again. But living you life like it is going to happen is going to do nothing but hurt you in the long run.
I haven't sought help, and I am very lonely. I didn't have anything as traumatic happen to me as happened to you, but I do know what it feels like to not trust people.
My advice is this, be honest with the people that you meet, and get therapy. The therapy is a waste of money if you are not ready. But for the sake of the people around you, try and be nice.
Good luck.
2006-11-28 17:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Matthew 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your friend is right - it's most likely, at least in some part, due to your relationship with your father. I know that sounds like a simple explanation for a complex problem, but I'd suggest you get some therapy to work on your issues.
Good luck :-)
2006-11-28 17:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need professional help. The hurt you inflict on others is a projection of hurt you want to inflict on yourself, and it may one day manifest itself as self-abuse. Furthermore, you are self-abusive in the sense that you seek validation from men that you don't love. You want validation from men because your father never gave you that love and validation, and you have never given it to yourself, and you still don't give it to yourself.
Again, you really need to seek professional help, not the advice of people on "Yahoo Answers". The only answers you should pay attention to on here are those, like mine, that tell you to go get real professional help.
2006-11-28 17:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I fricking hate girls like you. One of you just shattered my heart and doesnt really show remorse over it. She seems to be glad that Im not "in the way" of the other guy anymore. Girls like you have made my life hell...I cant trust people.
2006-11-28 17:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by bored_at_work 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
about all what u said about what u do u dont sound mature at all
2006-11-28 17:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to hurt b4 they hurt u. Please ask for professional help b4 it affects more than your love life
2006-11-28 17:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by needananswer 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to get help. that or get a whip and make a decent living as a dominatrix.
2006-11-28 17:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋