my hubby working oversea for a long period and my children got to study in local school. is very hard decision to make whether to stay with my hubby or my children as both side i will miss very much. i feel very depress over this matter, when i am with my children people will advise me to stay with hubby as they said he will go stray and when i stay with my hubby my relative will say my children will not hv good bond with me. what will u do if u are in my shoes
2006-11-28 17:05:02 · 15 answers · asked by kitty katty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a hard situation for you. However, you know that you will never give up your children. Not sure how long your husband will be gone.....is this a part time situation or his lifetime job? Your children will always be a part of you.......ALWAYS. Your husband, hopefully, will remain faithful to you. Why do they think he will stray? You have the same opportunity.....are you ready to stray? Is the communication good between you and your husband? I just have a tough time with the fact that there has to be a choice. Can you go visit him and leave the children for a while? Don't listen to people and their advise. That can get you into lots of trouble. Keep the lines open between you and your spouse. Some people just can't keep their noses out of other people's business and love to cause problems when there are none.
2006-11-28 17:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason why you and your children cannot join your husband overseas? If not, you should probably think about what would be best for your children. Where would they benefit the most from being, over seas or here? You can't let anyone else make the decision for you. You should really talk to your husband and see what he says. As far as your husband "straying" on you, well, you have to ask yourself if you trust him, if you dont, well then what diference will it make if you are with him or away from him. If he is gonna stray, you being with him wont stop it. What is best for the children should always be a number one priority for you and your husband.
2006-11-28 17:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by honeydoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the children together and stays with your husband. This situation happened to me 2 years ago and now I regretted it. I too stayed back while my husband works overseas. In just 6 months, he strayed and cited loneliness as the reason for it. When a husband is alone in a new city, I BET YOU he will STRAY no matter what. This is from my personal experience.
You will not regret going with your husband.....he needs you.
2006-11-28 17:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you choose the h, then what kind of mom would put her man 1st. i been there done that and lost my kids for a few years. are you willing to choose the h, and have a lifetime filled with hatered by all of your children? i'm just now mending the past the best i can for i only can change today by the mistakes from the past. think before you make that same mistake i toook 9 years ago. good luck.
2006-11-28 17:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you and your children go to be with your hubby? A family is supposed to be together. If he has a job in a place where they can't go or is too dangerous for them to be there then your obligation is with your children until they turn legal.
2006-11-28 17:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally my children.
I will always have my child even if a man strays. The was you treat a child can affect their lives and their relationships with others. You have to yourself in the place of your children. If a man strays then he wasn't yours to begin with. A man can stray even when you are right there. Is there an compromise available?
2006-11-28 17:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by exhaling2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it you should be finding a way to keep your family together, Your children need both their parents to raise them and you need each other to be a couple.If you cant be with both ..stay with the kids and trust your husband to be faithful while he's away from you.
2006-11-28 17:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you all go overseas and are you able to homeschool your children while you are abroad??? I know someone that does that that is on medical missions =I would be terrible to have to choose between the two-and I would not wantmto be in that position-D
2006-11-28 17:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children need you!!! If your hubby strays, he isn't worth keeping. Don't your kids deserve to have their mom??
2006-11-28 17:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by elloel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you all go overseas? Ultimately though your children need to be with at least one parent. . . who would you leave them with otherwise? (assuming of course that they are not of legal age) I would think though that if your children are minors that staying with them should be a no brainer.
2006-11-28 17:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋