She told me she was bi about 5 years ago, and at first I was fine with it, and began to feel the same way. We stayed best friends for 9 years, and she came on to me about 4 times, but when she finally confessed she loved me, I was scared shitless. I loved her, more than I have ever loved anyone, but being a young teen I was ashamed to admit how I felt. I denied her, and we stopped talking for a few months after that. Finally we became best friends again, and when I was ready to tell her the truth, she broke my heart, saying it was all just a phase she went through. I don't know what to do.. have I lost her forever? She says she's straight now, and here I am, broken and "un-cured".
2006-11-28 16:56:14 · 4 answers · asked by anne.meradith 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
"holajunkie"- don't be such a crusty old bas.t.ard. I'm looking for advice, not "tough love from daddy". Get a sedative.
"Sam C"- There's no "BFF" rule book that says "drop all your fears and see where your *** lands". I confide in my friends, but only to the extent that I remain in my comfort zone. Why should I have to reveal every single detail about myself to have a close friend? I was only 14, fool.
2006-11-28 17:18:31 · update #1
No, I haven't told her... still. I'm trying to wait for the right time, seeing as she's usually with her extreme-catholic sisters.
2006-11-28 17:33:45 · update #2
Ouch : ( Are you sure she is straight? she could of been hurt from you rejecting her. You need to tell her that you did have feelings for her when she came out to you, but you weren't mentally ready to deal with these feelings/emotions yet. You need to emphasise that you understand it may have been a phase for her, and just showing her the decency of telling her how you actually feel. By you already telling her i am sure she has started to think back when she did like you and what attracted her to you. I don't think she has lost her forever, you never will you to are good friends. But you need to also understand she will be emotionally and mentally a mess, because she had strong feelings for you and you burned her so she properly has compressed those feelings until how you told her how you feel. And i am pretty sure she would be questioning her sexuality again. So please be patient with her and don't give up.
Best of luck : )
2006-11-28 17:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by Shes a Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wonder if she was trying to mend what she felt was a rift she had created between you two? That she cares enough for you to put those desires aside if they are going to interfere with your friendship?
2006-11-28 17:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by celebduath 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I you guys are BEST friends and you say you love her, they you should be able to talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel
2006-11-28 17:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sam C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she said things.
tried 4 times.
she's not interested.
move on.
good luck.
2006-11-28 17:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋