How come when you explain obscure hobbies people tell you need to get a life? Don't they realize they're being hurtful? If having a life is doing boring, mediocre things then count me out!!!
We all have lives, obviously.... I take care of myself, what's the big deal if I collect comic books and like playing Dungeons and Dragons?
Is a 'life' simply the unspoken moral, social norm code or something that we dare not break? How comes it seems like you make friends easier the more you fit this certain code? What's wrong with being weird and eccentric and changing a lot?
A life can only be defined biologically, right? And if not, then what is this 'LIFE' you speak of?
2006-11-28 16:43:46 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you are confusing various meanings of the word life. When people tell you (hurtfully, though perhaps not intentionally) to 'get a life' they mean that you ought to be actively doing things out in the world.
Maybe to you, the comic book and D & D world offers enough excitement to keep your interest, but you are not considering all the real world relationships that you are missing out on.
Alternately, these critics may not be considering that you are making friends that enjoy these activities.
What other interests do you have? How old are you? Have you dated? Do you participate in outdoor activities? What percentage of friends are from D & D/ comic books, and what percentage is from your daily life interactions (school, activities, work, etc.)?
The reason why you make friends when you fit a certain social norm is because people like 'easy'...why the hell else would anyone like either of the singing Simpson sisters? They're cute, they sing about love, it's bubble gum pop...easy. But you can fit the social norm on a certain level, and have closer friends who know you on deeper levels.
For example, my best friend and I seem like good wholesome girls, but only our closest friends know how subversive we can be...it doesn't mean that we aren't good girls, but there's a whole other side that may not be palatable to a certain population and we don't need to shove it in their faces.
2006-11-28 17:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by keengrrl76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is just a test
2006-11-28 17:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋