I'm so confused...please help?

Question

my best friend just got the one of the lead roles in our musical production for next year, and i am trying really really hard to be happy for her, but all i ever am is jealous. i becme jealous of her singing talent (and of almost everything else about her, because shes almost perfect), and that makes me cry because i wish i was like her, but then i get even more upset because i know im being a horrible friend, and im so confused because i want to be happy but i cant seem to stop the jealousy from overpowering it...also, i think i might b a bit depressed, because i know i have a good life, but i always cry and get upset over nothing for no reason, and i dont know what to do, its making it really hard. i really need some help from anyone...

Answer 1

Sweety slow down....Envy is a natural feeling, you are not a bad person. Try looking and thinking about the things that you do well. I'm sure that you have talents everyone does...She , although you think she's perfect, probably has things about herself that she doesn't like. I'm guessing that you are a young teenager, so hormones and depressions are part of the deal. But if you are crying all the time, tell your mom or dad and go see a doctor. If you can't talk to them tell your guidance counselor, and maybe she can help you a little. Teenage years are hard, but hang in there baby, life does get better. Remember think about yourself and what you do well, and what looks good about you. God Bless

Answer 2

The grass is always greener on the other side. Don't worry, it's human nature, it's not your fault you have emotions. Try to put yourself in her shoes. Does she have a good life? How often does she get opportunities like this lead role? Do you think she deserves this? If you want to change, try to learn from your mistakes; try to learn about yourself, what kind of person you are. If you still think the same way, maybe you can use these feelings, motivate yourself to be better. After this, the only thing to do is talk to her. If she is truly your best friend, she will understand; maybe she can help you, maybe she is jealous of you too; if she doesn't understand, then maybe you need to move on; as you change, so will your friends. There is nothing wrong with saying goodbye, in the end it may be better for you and your friend. But remember, right now it may be her time to shine, (yes you want to shine too) but when the time comes, you will shine brighter than ever, you'll get your big break. Stay Strong and Reach For the Sky!

Answer 3

There there. It is normal to feel jealous in this type of situation. You are a human being and that's a part of human nature. Maybe you need to take some time off and do a little self-reflecting, think about what talents you might have that might surpass that of your friend's. Also, try all that you can to help your friend out with her part of the production and you'll find that it may be just as rewarding as getting the lead role. About being depressed, you need to realize that life is full of surprises and great opportunities...if you are sad and upset all the time, you might miss out big time. Hope you feel better =)

Answer 4

It probably hurts because you feel your friend is more popular and has more talented abilities than you. I had a friend like that in school and I felt I was never good enough to fit in; yet we were the best of friends and did quite a bit together. You have to realize that you have other talents that maybe SHE can't do. Everybody has their own special gifts. Be happy that she has that talent and know you have talents, too, in other areas.

Answer 5

it is perfectly natural for you to be jealous but you have things that she doesn't have . You should love yourself for who you are. Everyone gets upset of nothing its called stress. Be happy for her if it bothers you just ignore it. Ive been jealous and so has the whole world. If you can't control your sadness or jealously talk to a cousler or physciatrist you would be amazed how a thrid party can help you out. If you have a good life then be thankful. Life is as good as you make it

Answer 6

You may be suffering from a mild form of depression, please see your doctor about some medication to help you through this temporarily. As to your feelings of jealousy, while natural, shouldn't be so overwhelming that you cannot get over it in a day or two. If not, you may have some more deep seated issues. Try to remember, being like this girl requires being less jealous and whiney. Good luck my dear!

Answer 7

Why do you compare yourself to your friend? Don't you know that out of all the people who have ever been and ever will be you are the only you that will ever be? You are one of a kind. So how can you compare yourself to someone else? You can no more be them than they can be you.

Don't live in someone's shadow. Step out and be the best person you can be. Develop your own interests. Follow your own dream. When you can share with someone else, come together and celebrate each other that's wonderful but it never means you have to be copycats of each other.

Now go and smile in the mirror at yourself and say, "I am the best one to be me because I am the only one that will ever be me!"

Answer 8

You SHOULD be jealous of your friend's success because you ARE. What matters is how you deal with it--Use it as a spring board to improve yourself (enduring all the icky crap that comes with such pursuits) or be bitter and wallow in your own juices.

As to the depression--You need to figure out WHY. Are you just that age--lots of people are--Is something actually and fundamentally wrong--the typical case in most lives--Or are you just being a pain. Try living in Ethiopia (or worse yet--New Orleans) for a bit and see how sucky your life really is. It's fun!

Answer 9

be happy with what you have so what you cant sing as good as her and she looks perfect look at your self you probaly need to do some soul searching and be you and do you take a break or a long vacation because you sound like you need one