He is nice, just ignorance and love watching TV and delay most of his duties and I feel that he depends on me to finish it, or I have to get upset first before he will finish his duties, either for business or for home or for our kids.
2006-11-28 15:55:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pray for him . It works remember we cant do any thing by our selves only GOD can do it . and try planning family time and invite him, like putting the kids in sports
2006-11-28 16:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lynda W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a mild form of depression. It is not usual to decompress after a tenuous day, however when everyday becomes tenous, then you have a problem. You cannot change your husband per se, however you can adapt to him so that he sees what kind of impact that his impasse has created. I will suggest that you and the children join your husband at watching the boob tube with your husband. Get the whole family involved. Once he realizes that the children are missing out on life, then his creative juices will flow to get you and the children more active. Well, when this happens, let him lead. I know that it may seem odd at first, however if you remember that he may be the Wizard of OZ, you're the one behind the curtain. Passive aggressiveness works well for marriages. Its just unfortunate that most men don't have the discipline and too much testosterone for a light touch.
2006-11-28 16:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one here... Hmmmm.... I assume you've already talked about your feelings. Does he love you and the kids enough to change his priorities? If so.. Cool. Just tell him how to help you. If not... Then you may be in that "For better or worst" territory... happens sometimes. Hope you're good at creative drama. The getting mad bit only last for a little while... Bottom line... He nees to help out and spend time with his kids.... if nothing else... For love. Caz.
2006-11-28 16:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by casual247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that is great. yet then, i replaced into raised by making use of an at-homestead Dad, so i think of it is common for men to have a good time with babies. My young ones are in no way on my own with strangers, so i'm not too frightened concerning the opportunity of pedophiles basically yet. i think of i might anticipate that the guy, like me, can not rather tear himself faraway from the infantile exuberance and organic excitement that young ones at play exude. there is just one thing that pulls human beings to observe tiny people who, as of yet, have not any genuine concerns and would play freely. How is it that young ones stay so interior the 2nd, and are so actual to themselves? Even human beings's babies would nicely be captivating hence.
2016-12-17 18:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only talking to him can solve your problem.Just talk to him calmly and make him understand and realize his duties. Put yourself in his place and think what will convince you to take care of the duties that are being avoided. He might get upset or angry but if you will be patient and cool, i bet ya he will understand and will be a good hubby n father
2006-11-28 16:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by hard_2forget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that is his way of taking "personal time" which everyone needs. Maybe it would help if you both allowed yourselves to take personal time to do the things you enjoy each day, regardless of what they are, as long as you spent a half hour with your kids doing something fun or productive. That might be a fair arrangement.
2006-11-28 15:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by dasielady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might need unwind time as we all do. if its a routine that he vegges out in front of the TV, thats not being responsible. maybe if he sets a time when he watches tv. like particular shows. the kids and u need him and he still can have his VEG time. the entire time veg time? hes letting bad habits interfere w/his family life. hope u can help him. good luck to u all
2006-11-28 16:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by AlwaysWondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HIM!!! Keep in mind, he needs his down time, but TALK, TALK, TALK!!!! My husband did the same thing. Now we are divorced!! He now appreciates his time with the kids because he only gets to see them 2 days a week.
2006-11-28 16:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way. It irritates the $#@! out of me! I don't have an answer for you...but I wanted you to know you're not alone. :)
2006-11-28 16:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then maybe u all should start not being home n not be cookin dinner for him or catering to his needs..see how he likes being single. and fendin for himself for awhile while u all have fun. see if he comes around
2006-11-28 15:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋