stats say that pple who marry young are more inclined to get a divorce..does that mean if BOTH r young?

Question

hes all right, hes 29, but i am 21...
when people say that those who get married young are more inclined to get a divorce... do they mean when BOTH are young? what if HE is old enough and i am very young...? how would THAT jeopordize my marriage

Answer 1

It's a maturity thing ... in your case your 29 yr old BF could possibly be as mature as you are at 21 ....
The problems arise when the ages are much closer, as we all know women mature faster than men and as the woman grows and wants to settle down and raise a family it's often that the guy will still want to "hang" with his buds and raise a little hell instead of being at home .....
One persons take on things I know ... but I have been around the block a few times and have seen it all too often
Good Luck :)

Answer 2

Just dont be a statistic. Work hard for your marriage thats all. It doesnt matter how old you are I dont think. The only thing that matters is your maturity level and the seriousness you take with your vows. Marriage is for life and if you have any doubts, dont do it. Dont let no one tell you that you are too young. You get out of marriage what you put into it. Its almost like a second job. You have to work at it every day. Good luck.

Answer 3

In THIS day and age young peopl will get divorced, because they dont' know how to have patience and make a marriage work...divorce is too easy a way out. And in all honesty it ain't about age it's about maturity, it just so happens that a good majority of young people don't mature until way late in the game, while some mature quite early. What would jeopardize your marriage? Depends on possibly 2 things..one...if he's honestly ready to marry, and he truly loves you..and two...if YOU'RE 100% ready, and you truly love him.....
in his case...he's fine, he's 29, so he's probably been there done that..and at that age where it is certainly time to settle down.
You...you're at that age where people are in college, and most of em have that "i need to find myself" stage...where they go dating, and screwin around, and havin as much fun as they can cause they only live once....really kinda stupid in my opinion, but it happens.
SO this should be the questions you should ask yourself
Do you honestly and truly feel ready to settle down? Do you feel that you're missing out on something thrilling in your life to where you need to go out and have fun and enjoy being single? Do you think that there's something better that you truly need to find?
Because for a lot of young folk around 18-23, they suddenly feel the need to let loose and have fun, cause they then when they get older they THINK they'll miss out on being single and living on their own and had to depend on a man all her life and all that other stuff....so you have to contemplate those types of questions cause THAT can inevitably jeopardize a marriage. Hope it helps.

Answer 4

It realy depends on what you both wnat out of life if he wants this then tell him that vyou would like to wait a couple of years just to
experience life abit more before settling down. You should never feeled pressured into anything especially marriage take your time you are young and well even if you wait he will be only 31 and you will be 23. It's your life and your emotions will tell you what to do.
God Bless and Good Luck on any choice you make.

Answer 5

That depends on the two individuals. You can't categorize young all together. In your instance though, he is 8 years older and if you were so and he was 38, no biggie, but you are very young and probably haven't had the experiences he has had in life, so it might hurt you in the end. If you both want it bad enough and try hard and are faithful, there isn't any reason it can't work though.

Answer 6

My husband was just 21 and I was 19 when we got married. We have been married for 29 years. If I had to do it again, I would and exactly the same way.

Answer 7

me n my 1st n only husband got married at 22 (both was) and to this day are still married. and its been 13 yrs and still goin strong.
remember these things n u will make it
dont fight over money, kids, or small things. jealousy is an ugly thing too. so be a woman and if u think he is cheatin or has a wondering eye ..hit him where it hurts without him really knowing it.. oh there is so many ways to do this. n have him think u put a curse on him oh ya even if he isnt a believer..honey he will be.

Answer 8

your age of 21 is too young, to make a decision about your future husband. So what ever decision you make today will change tomorrow.

At age 29, he should be be looking for some one of his own age. It seems to me that he is insecure with himself, and so he is looking for a "child" to make himself feel better. He thinks that you are not mature enough to evaluate his shortcomings. Also, he thinks that he will have " better luck " with you, than with someone as mature as himself.

No offense dear ! Just be careful ! !

Answer 9

don't try and get married yet...some get married and after a few years of marriage they feel trapped and like they made the biggest mistake of their lives...i dated my husband 6 years to make sure it was right...and i have nothing against living together because it gives you an insight on what it will be like being married to the person...my husband and i still feel like we felt when we first started dating. good luck...its just the thing that if you want a relationship to work you have to work hard to make sure it stays afloat if you know what i mean...keep the love alive!

Answer 10

Yes, it generally means when both are young, but even couples that have one older member are more prone to divorce than the couples that are of similar age. Youth lacks experience.