I have a friend whose father and mother are gay and only hooked up to produce a child. They both played an active role in the persons life but live and love their partners only. Do you think this was a good and fair thing to do? Would you feel unique or upset to have been created in this situation?
2006-11-28 15:45:55 · 20 answers · asked by h nitrogen 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if they were both active in the childs life and love the kid then that kid gets 2 moms and 2 dads without the drama at family get togethers. what's the problem? one could say my parents only got together to produce a child and they're both str8. but they didn't stay together so i didn't get the benefit of dual involvement. babies are made from sex not love. well rounded kids are made from love and not necessarily the love between 2 people but the love of that baby by those people.
2006-11-28 15:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a gay male and I was once interviewed to be a sperm donor for a gay female so that she could have a baby. If I had been the chosen one I would have had no contact with the mother or child tho. I would rather get into some kind of contract with the mother to be so that I could have contact after birth, I would want the child to know that I was his/her biological father. I would do, I think that as long as the child is loved they would grow up all right. I have 3 daughters from when I was married (and no I was never str8, I just couldn't come to terms with my true sexual orientation) my youngest daughter was only 2 years old when her mother took here and her two sisters out of my daily life. I made sure those girls knew I was there father and that I loved them. I made sure they knew that me being gay did not make me any less of father to them. They love me very much and have no problem with me being gay and they know I love them very much too. They are beautiful, kind, caring, loving girls so yeah I wouldn't have any problem letting this situation that you mention happen. *hugs* JAC<
2006-11-28 16:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by jackaboo007 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't say how I'd feel to have been created in such a matter, has to be a better feeling than how I grew up being told I was a mistake and not wanted.
I think if the parents truly wanted a family, as it seems they did, that having it with a friend is a lot better than having a stranger donate what was needed to create a child.
I hope this child feels loved and special, sounds like they truly, truly wanted a child and are involved in its life.
2006-11-28 15:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Shalvia 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
LOVE makes a family
in humanity there are and have been every family arrangement you can imagine. I feel family is vital to the well being of our species that all family's should be respected and looked after. I feel that all family's should be given the space to grow in safety and health. If i was a child from a nonnuclear family i would be blessed to be cherished by such a family
all children are unique
2006-11-30 05:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by benbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child has a loving and stable home and the situation works for all the people involved, I see no problem at all. The kid has a father and mother as well as an uncle and aunt, that's more than most kids get.
2006-11-29 05:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since some places ban gay adoptions, how else are gay men gonna have kids? Pay a surrogate? Why not save that money and spend it on the child's needs?
As a woman-loving woman, I'd rather choose a 'sperm donor' from among the many quality men I know, than by choosing to 'buy' the sperm of a man I only know from details on a piece of paper.
2006-11-28 16:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that in this world, the meaning of the word "family" has come to be so varied and amazingly complex. If two (or one, or three) people want to get together to have a child by adoption or biologically or whatever, out of love and the desire to raise a child lovingly, that can't possibly be a bad thing.
2006-11-28 16:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by jenjubatus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they felt that it was the best decision for them (and wouldn't hurt their partners), and dedicated themselves to making sure the child was loved and well-cared for, then I would completely support it. It would most likely be extremely tough being raised in such a situation, not just because of social stigmas, but also all the chaos involved, and having to deal with finding your own identity amid all of it.
2006-11-28 17:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by anne.meradith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would definitely be unique. That child will have better chances as far as growing up to become successful, open-minded, and more highly-educated than some others because of this. It's perfectly fine to do it via artificial insemination (I'm assuming)... though I still believe in the adoption process more than overpopulation.
2006-11-28 16:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as everything is written on paper (meaning by a lawyer) it will be ok. In my Opinion every human that comes to this world have a purpose, so if it comes as a result of a gay and a lesbian wanting to have a kid, then it was meant to be...!!!!
2006-11-29 05:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋