My friend danielle and i have become really close. It seemed like we couldnt stop talking to each other for what seemed like a month. Wether we were just out for a bite, hanging out..on the phone, aim, txting, etc. During this time she had a dick boyfriend who she would always talk about. she called me the moment they broke up. it was a rather violent break up and is a whole different story. shes been hanging out with a new guy lately, and we dont really see each other much anymore. i dont get why that "new guy" wasnt me. i had given hints to Dani that i wanted the relationship to be more, but i think it scared her more than got us closer. we still talk all the time but we never touch on that topic..its just kind of depressing. she was so suprised when i told her how i felt. who nows how long this new guy will last. should i give up on trying to push the relationship further..i mean i know she cares for me dearly as i do for her..but what should i do..?
2006-11-28 15:38:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
show ur love to her.. let her feel that there is nothing to b scared of if your relationship will go into romantic one.
let her feel that you love her so much that u do not want to see her crying and depress again.
let her realize that you are a better boyfriend than just being a friend...
show ur love and care.. being friends and lover at the same time is very sweet and romantic..
2006-11-28 15:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her feelings towards you may be true, but only as friendship. Also sounds like you're a bit of a "crutch." I wouldn't try to push the relationship any more. It will only make her withdraw even more. Instead, build up your confidence and start meeting new people. If she really is interested, she'll see you're on the market and may decide to "make the purchase."
2006-11-28 15:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Angela Huff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. You must have been clear about your feelings if her reaction was surprise, but maybe the thing is that she doesn't want to jeopardize your friendship, or she's attracted to "bad guy" types, or she's not attracted to you in that way. If you truly care about her, let it be. Stay friends with her and put your feelings aside, because if you try to push them on her and she's not interested in you in that way, it will only make things worse. I had feelings for my best guy friend a while ago, but got over it because I cared too much to be his friend and saw that he just wasn't into me like that, but it wasn't that he didn't care, just that he didn't want to be my boyfriend. Good luck.
2006-11-28 15:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on for now. Some people can't see a good thing if it bit them in the rear.
You seem like a good guy. Just go on with your life, remain her friend and if she find herself alone again, reveal your feelings and see if you get a different response.
2006-11-28 15:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by msjuliet2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you were hinting, but mabey you should just come and be honest. it can be scary going from friends to dating, but give her some time. good luck and i hope it works out
2006-11-28 15:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by loves bro+sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a true friend, which is hard to find now adays. Be a friend, and if it was meant to be more, it will happen., sooner or later
2006-11-28 16:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay
reality- friend
sometimes that's all you get!
if that is enough good- accept it.
move on for love!
2006-11-28 15:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋