iv been struggling really bad trying to get over mine its so hard for me i act like i havent had one but then i think an when im home alone i get really upset about it? i dont no how to move on?
2006-11-28 15:31:41 · 24 answers · asked by hott redd 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You have to come to terms of acceptance that you had an abortion. Denying that fact doesn't allow you to move on.
Some females have guilt and others have a sense of relief. Both are common depending on the individual.
I do recommend you seeking some counseling to help you heal in a positive way.
Abortion is not an easy procedure and it takes a lot of strength to get through it. It is not easy to go through it alone. Seek some help hun.
The clinic you had your abortion at should also offer counseling as well.
2006-11-28 15:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
People on here are trying to guilt you more and it making me mad.you did what you had to do.It was not an easy choice.You don't need people telling you negative things right now.I'm sorry you had to go through what you did.But eventually you will move on.Of coarse you always mourn the loss of your child.But know in your heart that you did what was best for you.I'm not sure how old you are but you sound young.And having the guts to do what you did should be applauded not looked down on.Thank God that you were smart enough to know that would wouldn't be able to provide for this child.Now you know that you have to be careful in the future so this doesn't happen again.
2006-11-29 02:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abortion is a loss. You lost someone that's a part of you and like any loss, it is painful and it will be painful for a while but the pain will go away somehow even if the memory of it doesn't. When you understand that you have to through this grieving process, it's a little, if not altogether, easier to bear. Be patient with yourself because it takes time to heal.
On top of the grief is probably the guilt. Every decision we make has an outcome. Learn the lesson from this outcome but do not be enslaved by it. Sometimes we can't do it alone, we need someone to help us through our pain. Please find someone, a counselor or even a friend, who has a sympathetic ear. It will make a big difference on how you feel. Take care.
2006-11-28 16:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well it is perfectly normal what you are going through, and I think that one thing you have to know is you never really get over it. I have a friend who had an abortion about 5 years ago and she still has not gotten over it. I think the reason why she never got over it is because she felt pushed into it by her boyfriend. I mean I know that it was her body and she could do as she pleases but when you have influence behind you then it is really tough to make the right decision. If you find yourself getting depressed then I would receive counseling.
2006-11-28 15:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you ever "get over" it...All you really can do is know that you made the best decision you could at the particular time in your life with the information you had and the time frame you were in....It is simply one of those things you can not "take back" so all you can do is forgive yourself and move on to have the best life you can!..And keep your chin held high!!..
2006-11-29 04:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are plenty of women out there who feel like you. I know of one program that is an outreach of the Catholic Church called Project Rachel. This organization is ecumenical and non-denominational. They have a national "800" referral line (1-800-5WE-CARE) that enables people looking for support to find it in their own communities. There is also web site that will give you the location of the closest program available in your area. http://home.wi.rr.com/noparh/projectrachels.html There are also weekend retreats that help you heal. You can find out more about them at :http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/
The name is from the Bible: In Jeremiah 31:15 the prophet speaks of 'Rachel weeping for her children'. May your heart be healed.
2006-11-29 01:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by M K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey you did what you felt you had to do. And that is your right. If deep down you felt that this was all you could do then you are probably right. You WILL get over it. Dont get me wrong, you will never forget it and it will stay with you forever but it does become less painful, I promise. I know its a cliche but time really is the best healer. Allow yourself to grieve and seek some counselling. And please dont listen to some people who will say you killed your baby. That is not going to help you hun and they dont know why you did it and what your personal circumstances are. You will get over this but please get some help even if its a close friend or a teacher you can confide in. And talk to a doctor about contraception thats right for you so you dont find yourself in this position again until you are ready to have a baby. Good luck to you and just look to the future.
2006-11-28 16:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
What you did was very wrong, and it's a good thing that you feel remorse. It means you have a conscience. But you need to forgive yourself so you can move on with your life. Ask God for forgiveness and He'll give it to you. You're baby's up in Heaven with God right now. I'm sure God's taking good care of that little child. Get yourself into Christian counseling, and pray about it alot. Remember, God loves you no matter what you do.
God bless!
2006-11-28 16:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by mandamandapanda 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Keep in mind that you didn't kill (such harsh terms) a baby. You killed a fetus, which is only one step up from the sperm infesting in the egg. I've had an abortion, two actually, and it still saddens me to think to about it. I don't necessarily feel guilty, as that was my decision at the time, however, I sometimes wish things would have been different at that time. Give it some time, talk with a counselor, a parent/sibling and just realize that you made your decision for a REASON. Evidentally, you believed that things would be better this way, as did I. And I was correct (for the record).
I just hope you were fully informed on the adoption option. Though, I hear it's hard to give the child up after bonding with it as it grows inside of you.
If you really made this decision yourself & weren't talked into it, as time passes, you will realize that you did make the right decision for whatever reason.
Good luck.
2006-11-28 15:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Empress 3 · 2⤊ 7⤋
I totally agree with REBORN! How can you play god HOW? It is murder I don't care what all these people say that it was never living well you know what yall are freaking heartless. I hope you never get over it you shouldnt you just played GOD, I know that is cruel to say but look what you did. You never even gave the child a chance for life with another family.There is no excuse for what you did unless you were rapped and Im sure you werent. If you didnt want to get pregnant keep your legs closed. You are not God dont ever choose who gets to live and who gets to die.GOD BLESS YOU THOUGH.
2006-11-28 15:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by ♥TEENYTINY♥ 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋